My family and I visited WDW for the first time in the first week of January.
We stayed the first two nights at AOA (LM-room) and moved to POFQ and stayed five nights in a 2 queen-bed garden view room.
I was really looking forward to stay at a moderate and seing the wonderful pics of FQ made me so excited! And don't get me wrong, I liked FQ.... but damn I missed AOA!! I cannot say a single bad thing about FQ, I just liked AOA better
I would not hesitate to recommend FQ, but for me, personally, AOA is more magical and more Disney-ish. And is where I would choose to stay again.
So I think it is very hard to say whether or not a mod is worth the extra money... I would choose AOA over any mod, anytime, no question! But that was not because I didn't like FQ. I liked having a bigger room, bigger bed and a hot-tub. But I did not feel like I was in the "Disney buble" when I was at FQ, like I did at AOA.
And about the buses. My experience with the buses was the oposite of what you usually hear. I felt that the buses at FQ were more crowded and it was "annoying" to share a bus with POR.
Think about what you value the most. Do you like big and colorful disney stuff in-your-face!? Can you imagine not going to the hot-tub after a long day in the parks? Is the size of the bed a big factor and how about the boat to DTD. Look at your needs and what you like. I think mods in general are more "stylish" and values are kind of "childish". Discounts is also a factor for me. We stayed at FQ because we could get the stay/play/dine deal, which was not offered at LM-rooms at AOA
Sorry for the long post... Just thought I would share my experince
Hope you find the best option for you and your family!
(Btw... My grandma' (81-years old and in a wheelchair) liked FQ way better than AOA...)