OP, I TOTALLY get "it". I love love LOVE the details. I have already started planning for our trip NEXT September. I have had ADRs made and park plans for literally, months for our trip next month. I am still tinkering and perfecting every day. In fact, here I am on the Dis at work.
Anyway, several years ago a friend was going with us. She laughed at the amount of planning and plotting I was doing. She said I was obsessed (true but whatever)
. Anyway, she told me while we were at MK how much she appreciated everything I'd done and she realized how much MORE she had gotten to do and see b/c of my planning. I appreciated her thanks but I really do plan b/c I love it.
She called me a few weeks ago. She and her DH have decided to take their kids on a last minute trip and she needed all the help I could give her. I helped her make BBB appts, ADRs, and plan park days. It was as much fun planning her vacation as it is my own! (well, almost
)
Anyway, on to your issue, you made the plans, you gave the opportunity for input, and most importantly you told all the parties your touring style. If they want to keep up, fine. If not, don't let it bother you, that's fine too. I would do as others suggested and give each person a copy of YOUR itenerary for the day, inlcuding ADRs and show times. If they want to stay with you they can, if they want to go their own way and meet up for meals, thats okay too. YOU just make sure you and DH have a wonderful time!