There are plenty of ways to maximize experiences with a more relaxed touring style. We have never been rope droppers, and my SO has back issues that mean commando touring is literally painful. Said issues also limit the amount of time we can spend in the park before he's just done for the day, even when taking it easy.
Here are some of the things we do.
- Try to go during less crowded times of the year.
- If your "going with the flow" doesn't involve waiting to pick a park that same day, definitely aim for the most recommended park each day. More people heading to another park for EMH or Fantasmic means fewer people ahead of you in line! If you want to hit a non-recommended park, use park hoppers and only stay there as long as you have to. If you want to wait to select a park day-of, pick your FPs and ADRs as soon as you get in the park (or on the way, using your phone, if you're not doing the driving). You're probably not going to get BOG or Anna and Elsa, but there are many fine headliner ride times and dining choices that are still available same-day.
- Make the most of parade and firework times. If you want to watch them, do so from a less-popular place that's ideally right near the next attraction you want to hit -- like watching the parade from Frontierland and then immediately heading to Splash.
- If you can (it's becomingly increasingly hard for us to do this one anymore), take full advantage of late hours. And be sure to get in line for something right before closing time. Even on a non-EMH night, we were able to ride 7DMT with a 30 minute wait by getting in line at 11:59 before a midnight closing. Posted wait time was 90 minutes, so that was a nice bonus. But even if it had taken that long (and we were prepared to wait), it would have been 90 minutes post-closing, instead of eating into park time that could be spent riding other rides.
- Eat at off-peak times if you can, and take advantage of slightly smaller crowds during normal meal times.
- Use single-rider for the rides that have it. We don't do this, because we'd rather spend the time together (even if it's waiting in line) than fit more attractions in our schedule...but if you don't mind it, that can definitely be a time saver.
- Save shows and FPs+ for the crowded afternoon hours. Any headliners that you plan to ride standby, try to do with one of the above strategies/times.
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But ultimately, yeah, more relaxed touring still means dealing with increased wait times. So we people watch while in line, or download a book we've been looking forward to reading onto our phones. I will never understand the people who hadn't experienced TSMM at all before FP+ because they didn't do rope drop and weren't willing to put up with the long wait. Like...really? You weren't willing to do the wait even once? Though I'm sure they probably don't understand us having never done BOG dinner yet, because we've never had solid plans for a trip made by the 180-day mark!
Best of luck to anyone trying for a more relaxed trip! It can indeed be done.