Petals & Pixie Dust
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- Dec 22, 2007
I think asking T&CO is a great idea. Just make sure they say it doesn't need to match!!!!! My DF and I are not getting matching rings, not even matching metals. Is that weird?? He likes the way tungsten looks and I want mine to match my ering. I say another way to comprimise is say okay, you want matching rings but we can't afford matching rings at T&CO. Why don't we look elsewhere. That might work. Maybe. Anyway- good luck with whatever you decide.
No you're not weird.
I've tried the lets look elsewhere line. No dice. For some strange reason, for once...HE is the one pushing the T&CO bit. His theory is that all the jewelry that he has gotten me has been from there and as he says "It's tradition." I don't know where the tradition started, how it started, when it started...but it's tradition. I apparently wasn't part of the deciding process on this one.
the engagement ring that i'll be getting some day (hopefully soon ) is an antique tiffany & co that once belonged to my grandma. i want one of those 5 stone diamond wedding bands. i don't think my boyfriend would want the same one as me in that case.
my band and ring won't even be from the same company, since tiffany is way too expensive for my blood (and a waste of money for me).
i say, do what you like. if he's getting ticked about them not matching, that's kind of a silly thing to get annoyed over. i don't think that most people match more than the type of metal.
While I agree that T&CO is way too expensive, it seems like he is putting in A LOT of thought about this. HE was the one that brought up that T&CO had a new ring out...Um ok...Why is he looking on the site enough to know there is a new ring out??? (insert obvious answer) I should at least be grateful that he is putting this kind of work into it. I feel bad that I want something different despite whether I should or not.
No worries there, they're in bigtime sales. You ask the question as - "I want a channel set diamond band, and DF wants us to have matching plain bands. Do you think they have to match?" They'll instantly say that yours should have diamonds!! $$
Absolutely they are into sales. However, they seem pretty honest. When BF sent me looking at T&CO in NC I explained to the guy that there was no way we'd be able to afford the price. He said to go and play with color and clarity. He was really honest, especially for knowing that he wasn't going to make a sale.
Well I must say my ring is from walmart. It was the exact one I was looking for. I couldnt find anything within the budget my DF had. We live on our own so thats why money is tight. But I got a 1 caret ring and i only wanted 1/2 carat. I got the ring on clearence it was 50% off so it was $999. My wedding band is from JCPenneys and my DFs ring is from Whitehall since he wanted a celtic tungsten ring.
So we dont match. We both got what we wanted since we have to live with it the rest of our lives. Be happy having what you want on your finger if your DF wants a ring from not an upadee up store. So be it. But if you want one from a high end store... go get it. especially if you are paying for it.
I hope I didn't offend. That was not my intention. This T&CO bit has been a huge debate with BF and I from the get go. I've asked to look other places. I've tried to up the anti and make it unobtainable...he won't budge...It's like pushing an elephant....he won't see otherwise.
I can see how this thread would make you feel bad, with the mentions of people only wanting T&Co. But I honestly don't believe anyone one meant to imply and a ring from any other store wasn't as good. People on this board just aren't like that.
People hold up T&Co. as though the jewelry is obviously better because it comes from there. But that isn't the case. A large part of what is being paid for is the brand name. Which I have nothing against. But you do notice people enjoy mentioning that their rings is from Tiffany. I actually made the choice not to buy from T&Co. for my diamond because I wanted more diamond for my dollar. Anyone who would look down on someone because they're ring isn't huge, or expensive, or from Tiffany's is someone you don't want to talk to anyway. But as I said, I think in this case the ladies were just excited and didn't realize their words might be hurtful. This really is one of the nicest boards out there.
Honestly, I'm even afraid to wear the ring!!! He'll have to insure my hand or something b/c I'm afraid something will happen to it or something. then I'd be devastated. Again, see my above statement...I've tried to get him to look elsewhere. I have no clue where this obsession has come from.