No chores, they just sat on their rear ends playing on their phones/ipods/tablets/xBox/whatever. No allowance, they just got whatever they wanted no matter what financial situation the family was in. Electric bill a month late and they're coming to turn it off next Wednesday, well, the oldest is complaining about her cheap prepaid $30 phone and wants a Samsung S6, she got the Samsung S6 and the electric was figured out some other way.
TLDR: I'm divorced now
It still continues today. The oldest says her Samsung, only bought a year and a half ago, was glitching and junk. Mom was a month between jobs and wasn't getting paid. Instead of paying the car payment (still in my name) and her house payment (funny how she was turned down on the first mortgage she tried to get because she was 2 months late in paying the old mortgage, but didn't understand why and got mad at me when I told her probably because she's 2 months behind on the current mortgage,) she gets a $3500 tax refund and buys two $700 phones for the girls and new beds. My work phone now has 15 missed calls from PNC Bank for the car payment. She could have paid the $1500 left on the car and I would have immediately transferred it into her name, but that's just not as important as the girls having iPhone 7's. She could have sent in $502 to cover the 2 car payments that were late, but that's just not as important as the girls having new iPhone 7's.
$3500 tax refund and the two $400 child support payments from me for that month and she still couldn't figure out how to pay her $600 mortgage and two late $250.99 car payments. Now that the divorce is final, I am finding it quite comical. She digs herself further in the hole bringing in more money than both of us did together while I pay off 2 credit cards, put $1000 into a car then had to trade it as it needed far too much more work for what it was worth, put several $1000 down on a new car, paid my lawyer $5000, and saved up $10k for a mobile home to live in while bringing in 1/4th what we were bringing in as a family.
When I was a kid, I got an allowance but only saw it for mom to say, "here's your allowance", before it got put away to save. Birthday or holiday money from grandparents or aunts and uncles? Taken and put away to save. Turned 16 and got a job. Cash the paycheck and mom took it and put it away. Had to ask for my money to put gas in the car. Mom was a major self centered, narcissistic, selfish, opinionated, abrasive, mean, control freak. I never had any money growing up and didn't get anything. I didn't do so well starting out when I left as it was now all mine and I'll do whatever I want. All the forced to put 100% away in savings just taught me that mom is a major self centered, narcissistic, selfish, opinionated, abrasive, mean, control freak and I learned nothing about personal finances.