DD14 just called and she is sitting at home sobbing. She started out the conversation with Mom I might get suspended from school. My cell has been ringing with text messages from her friends, letting me know what all went on. I am ready to throttle a girl and she's not mine!!
DD has been "dating" this boy. One of her "really good" friends can't stand the kid. Has been down right mean and hurtful to him and in turn to my dd with her comments. I have seen how she is around him at school functions and on line. She's a hateful and rude girl. I have stayed outta it, mom can't fight DD battles for her. I've given suggestions to DD on how to handle her, but other than that and deleting some facebook comments the girl made, I've been hand off.
The boy found out last week, that his family is going to have to move back to LA - this weekend!! Needless to say, neither DD or him are very happy little love birds.
Somehow this girl found out today what was going down. At lunch, him and DD are sitting at their table. This girl comes up and starts in. "Finally (insert DD's name) can get a real boyfriend instead of feeling sorry for a piece of trash like you." "I always knew you were a loser and had losers for parents." "Starting next week, our lunch table won't have the smell of **** at it since you will no longer sitting here" Many, many other insults were being said by the girl and I can't type without getting points. DD, the kid and 6 others, were all telling her to shut her mouth. If they get up and move from table to table, the kids get into trouble. And seeing as he only has 2 days left, they wanted to sit together these last 2 days and there are no open tables to move to as a group. If there had been an open table, they would have moved and told the lunch room warden why, if they had gotten in trouble for it. The kids are telling me she kept it up for a good 20 minutes of their 25 minute lunch.
A couple of DD's other friends said, that during classes that the girls had together, she was making comments to DD. They didn't always hear them, but they would see her leaning towards DD.
The straw that sent my DD over the edge, was as they were getting off the bus this evening, the girl told DD she had better have learned her lesson after having dated a "white ******" and not to lower her standards the next time. From what DD's bestfriend told me, it took him and the boy friend everything they had to keep DD from getting ahold of the gril and ripping the hair off her head and knocking her head off her shoulders. DD didn't touch her, but it sure wasn't from the lack of trying. They said DD was screaming at the girl, that she was deadmeat!! Come close to her and she'd knock her on her ***. The best friend said DD busted his lip with her elbow while he was trying to hold her back. By the time the boys managed to start dragging DD towards our house, the girl had shut her mouth and had started to hightail it for her housing addition. Yea, the girl got off 4 stop before she should have, with the intent of running her mouth some more.
While I'm not overtly happy with DD, I can see why she lost it. I would have lost it on the girl back when I was the same age, with that last comment. The kids don't know how much of what took place off the bus that the bus driver saw. That is why DD doesn't know if she's going to get into trouble or not with school. If she does, I guess I'll be telling the school, that once those kids were off the bus, it was no longer a school issue, but a home issue. And if the bus driver had done his job and not let the kids off at any ol' stop, the girl wouldn't have about had her head ripped off.
My heart is breaking for my kid. Having to deal with this little ***** is not making the boyfriend leaving any easier. It might have to be a chocolate treat night tonight for DD and some of her friends.
DD has been "dating" this boy. One of her "really good" friends can't stand the kid. Has been down right mean and hurtful to him and in turn to my dd with her comments. I have seen how she is around him at school functions and on line. She's a hateful and rude girl. I have stayed outta it, mom can't fight DD battles for her. I've given suggestions to DD on how to handle her, but other than that and deleting some facebook comments the girl made, I've been hand off.
The boy found out last week, that his family is going to have to move back to LA - this weekend!! Needless to say, neither DD or him are very happy little love birds.
Somehow this girl found out today what was going down. At lunch, him and DD are sitting at their table. This girl comes up and starts in. "Finally (insert DD's name) can get a real boyfriend instead of feeling sorry for a piece of trash like you." "I always knew you were a loser and had losers for parents." "Starting next week, our lunch table won't have the smell of **** at it since you will no longer sitting here" Many, many other insults were being said by the girl and I can't type without getting points. DD, the kid and 6 others, were all telling her to shut her mouth. If they get up and move from table to table, the kids get into trouble. And seeing as he only has 2 days left, they wanted to sit together these last 2 days and there are no open tables to move to as a group. If there had been an open table, they would have moved and told the lunch room warden why, if they had gotten in trouble for it. The kids are telling me she kept it up for a good 20 minutes of their 25 minute lunch.
A couple of DD's other friends said, that during classes that the girls had together, she was making comments to DD. They didn't always hear them, but they would see her leaning towards DD.
The straw that sent my DD over the edge, was as they were getting off the bus this evening, the girl told DD she had better have learned her lesson after having dated a "white ******" and not to lower her standards the next time. From what DD's bestfriend told me, it took him and the boy friend everything they had to keep DD from getting ahold of the gril and ripping the hair off her head and knocking her head off her shoulders. DD didn't touch her, but it sure wasn't from the lack of trying. They said DD was screaming at the girl, that she was deadmeat!! Come close to her and she'd knock her on her ***. The best friend said DD busted his lip with her elbow while he was trying to hold her back. By the time the boys managed to start dragging DD towards our house, the girl had shut her mouth and had started to hightail it for her housing addition. Yea, the girl got off 4 stop before she should have, with the intent of running her mouth some more.
While I'm not overtly happy with DD, I can see why she lost it. I would have lost it on the girl back when I was the same age, with that last comment. The kids don't know how much of what took place off the bus that the bus driver saw. That is why DD doesn't know if she's going to get into trouble or not with school. If she does, I guess I'll be telling the school, that once those kids were off the bus, it was no longer a school issue, but a home issue. And if the bus driver had done his job and not let the kids off at any ol' stop, the girl wouldn't have about had her head ripped off.
My heart is breaking for my kid. Having to deal with this little ***** is not making the boyfriend leaving any easier. It might have to be a chocolate treat night tonight for DD and some of her friends.