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I cringe when we have family dinners now, both my children are grown and gone, when they start talking the 'remember when' stories. the things they did that I didn't know about. nothing horrid but certainly things they knew I wouldn't approve of. heck, I had those stories in my childhood. can you honestly say you did everything by the book when you were a child? i'm sure someone will totally disagree with this and say 'never'.
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something bad can happen at any moment but if it does I want to be able to say I did my best to protect them.
I look back at some of the things I did as a teenager and I wonder how I lived. The scary thing is that I was a GOOD kid but I did some really stupid things as well. Some of those things would not likely happen today because society has changed and that is a good thing.
My kids are fascinated by COPS and other police reality shows which is great. They have seen what drugs and drink can to do people which was far more effective than me talking to them. Of course my talking would have been taken as A Lecture and who knows how well they would have taken what I said.
I have had many conversations with others my age about parenting today and what we did as kids. Parents are certainly more protective today than when I was a kid. I would leave the house for hours, if not all day, and that was acceptable. Other kids did the same thing. I would ride my bike all over the place, go for long walks in farm fields and in the woods. At one school, I rode my bike to school and for some strange reason I would get up before my parents, fix my own breakfast and go to school for a second breakfast. I was getting to school before other kids and most of the teachers!
What was wrong with me!
I would cross a busy four lane round in the dark by myself every morning. One the weekends, I would cross that same road to go to a 7-11 to get candy, comics and slushee.
I would let my kids do SOME of these things but not others.
At that school we had what is now called Stranger Danger talks and films. A police officer would talk to use once or twice a year about "Stranger Danger" and he had a very bloody film to show.
Can't imagine that the film would be shown today.
I don't know why parents are more protective today. My guess is that while kids were harmed years ago, it was a more local event so you did not hear about the crime unless it took place within the broadcast range of local TV or the distribution of the local paper. Today, with cable and 24 hour news stations, we hear of crimes on the other side of the country which did not happen when I was a kid.
Parents today have more information about sexual predators that my parents never dreamed of having. When we lived in the city, we knew which nearby houses had a sexual predator as did most other parents. There were quite a few predators living in close by but what was scary was the man we knew was a predator but was not on a list. What was scarier were the predators we did not know about. Our parents did not have this information but parents today do have this knowledge and have acted accordingly.
My kids will tell me I am being mean when we tell them they cannot do something. Most of the time they are kidding but I will tell them that parents have to be mean sometimes, it is part of the job.
Later,
Dan