so recently I have been spending much too much time with teenagers and I have to say sometimes it is a little scary... Surely I wasn't like that?!?
One thing I have noticed in sports is that in doing team building for that elite team and rewarding its members for its success I am starting to see attitudes of 'we're better' in a snobbish way and exclusion of old friends when one makes the higher level team and the other is left behind. While I definitely think that effort and skill should be rewarded, team building should be encouraged, and children shouldn't be cushioned in an 'everyone wins a participation award' type way, I worry that cliques and exclusivity are not encouraging the right values such as respect for all. It is great to give the younger kids something to aspire to but in focusing on the elite (getting better uniforms, more promotion etc) is it encouraging this cliquiness
I say this because I definitely hear some teens in the elite team talking in a mean way about some of the ones who didn't make it. They get together and post lots of selfies in their new uniforms (pretty normal I know) but there are others that are no longer included in the friendship group. While friends do change, it is the attitude around it that worries me.
Thoughts anyone? Do you see the same thing encouraged in sports clubs, especially among teenage girls who tend to be more cliquey? Is it even causing a problem of less accepting and respectful kids or just part of the real world?
One thing I have noticed in sports is that in doing team building for that elite team and rewarding its members for its success I am starting to see attitudes of 'we're better' in a snobbish way and exclusion of old friends when one makes the higher level team and the other is left behind. While I definitely think that effort and skill should be rewarded, team building should be encouraged, and children shouldn't be cushioned in an 'everyone wins a participation award' type way, I worry that cliques and exclusivity are not encouraging the right values such as respect for all. It is great to give the younger kids something to aspire to but in focusing on the elite (getting better uniforms, more promotion etc) is it encouraging this cliquiness
I say this because I definitely hear some teens in the elite team talking in a mean way about some of the ones who didn't make it. They get together and post lots of selfies in their new uniforms (pretty normal I know) but there are others that are no longer included in the friendship group. While friends do change, it is the attitude around it that worries me.
Thoughts anyone? Do you see the same thing encouraged in sports clubs, especially among teenage girls who tend to be more cliquey? Is it even causing a problem of less accepting and respectful kids or just part of the real world?