itutorfortravel
I tutor high school math to pay for my travel addi
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Thank you to all who offered encouragement and support! I got this
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I would sit with your dd and tell her that you cannot include 15 names on the list. Just be honest.
Thank you!
Thank you for the encouragement! Have you been in this kind of situation? Just wondered what your thoughts were (or might be) if you were me OR if you were the parent of one of my child's friends? Her anxiety over it is honestly beginning to make me feel skittish...
ITA. And I am really surprised an 8th grade child would be involved in drafting an "exclude" list. Maybe I'm missing something, but that could be misinterpreted a lot of ways by other parents/kids.This is not up to your daughter. She is a child. I certainly would not quit a job because my daughter was obsessing over issues that will likely never materialize.
I worked at a middle school while my son was a student and high school while my daughter and son both were students. I am not a teacher, but work in a disciplinary area. I not only dealt with students who knew my kids, I dealt with some of their friends as well. I've also dealt with many students who are the children of my acquaintances and friends. It's never been an issue. I'll admit that I used to worry that kids would "retaliate" against my kids, but it's never happened.
I know both of my kids have had other kids say to them, "your mom got me in trouble!" Their response has always been that they are pretty sure the kid must have done something to warrant the trouble. They just laugh and move on. The few times that happened, it was mostly in jest.
I would tell your daughter that it is not possible for you to exclude so many kids and explain to her that you are not anticipating any issues that will impact her. If it happens, then deal with it. I'm guessing it likely won't be a problem.
ITA. And I am really surprised an 8th grade child would be involved in drafting an "exclude" list. Maybe I'm missing something, but that could be misinterpreted a lot of ways by other parents/kids.
I think if a short list like that is necessary, it would very quietly be made between the teacher and administration only. No child involvement at all.
Thanks for your POV. Goodness no, she is not making the list! I guess I am just sensitive to her feelings since I came on her turf vs the other way around, so I started the conversation with her not really anticipating the response I got!