cabanafrau
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- May 10, 2006
My husband is not a jerk.
I would not demand a gift. I don't want or need a gift. I guess I need something special to show he is thinking of and appreciating me.
A forced Hallmark card does not do that.
That's a nice, calm relationship issue you should be discussing -- and it has nothing to do with holidays, the real or the commercially driven variety, and disappointment about not receiving a trinket or a card. If I felt like this I would be looking for ways to spend more frequent quality time solo with my spouse to make sure we reconnected in a way that put us right back in the mindset of why early on we felt we had to spend the rest of our lives together. I'm not talking about infatuation. I'm talking about how interesting we found one another and could spend hours together doing anything or nothing, just talking about things. I get if you have kids, jobs, a home to take care of, other responsibilities, it can be easier said than done. At first to get the machine working again it might mean some date nights. Once the machine starts gaining some momentum you may find yourselves fully engaged in great conversations again while you tackle cleaning the garage or removing wallpaper.
If I were you I would be having a discussion about feeling disconnected and making some plans to work to change that. Even if a marriage is rock steady it's easy to go through times where events and overloaded schedules make you feel pulled apart. The trick is finding ways to make the time to reconnect and have it be a priority for both of you.