OP - I wish your son luck, NYC is a great city especially for a young person with a good career path. I hope he takes every opportunity he can because who knows, like many of us he'll have to leave one day and I wish I had done so many things.
That is true about paying for the train BUT some here are talking about 3K or 2K or 2500K a month rent. Up here by me you can even snag a place around 1K if you get lucky but 1 bedrooms average 1200 to 1500 and you could even maybe luck out something less. Obviously you are not going to pay that much difference in travel and would still save. Just saying something to think about especially if you like both worlds of hiking and outdoor life AND nightlife.
How would you know where all younger people want to live, I lived here when I was that age and had no wish at all to move closer to the City, neither did most I know, simply bc we had easy access to the City and places to hang out here, and other things to do here including bars, etc., and also hiking, biking, kayaking and all manners of outdoor activities. I was just mentioning it for the OP. Maybe he is a City kid that doesn't like the idea of travel, I just put it out there as an option. Or maybe he would love it, love to save money on rent bc it is about half or less than other places mentioned here.
I don't think anyone is trying to diss where you live and how much you enjoy it. No one has trashed your area, it sound lovely. But what we are trying to say is that a young man starting his career in the financial district should look for something quite close and an easy commute to work. And the plus of those locations is the tremendous amount of things for him to do when not working, where he can meet others his age easily, make friends and enjoy what the city has to offer.
And we don't know enough about this young man to know his likes. We do know where he will work, the basic business and how much he has to spend on rent. She said he's never been to NYC and I imagine doesn't know anyone.
Some of us who went through the same experience, who had to commute into the city are trying to explain just how cumbersome it can be to commute and it's not like it's a $3 train ride to town. How many times we had to leave a dinner or event early to commute home while our workmates continued to enjoy themselves. How many times we wanted to participate in the million things happening but we had to get back out there. How hard it was to meet people because the suburbs are settled with folks native to the area.
I lived in NJ outside NYC for 13 years. If I had to do it again as a 24 year old (and I was) I would never move to a bedroom community again. I wasn't far, I could see the Twin Towers. But I would move to Manhattan if I had his budget, enjoy everything the city offers from plays, to festivals, to museums, to awesome food .... the energy ... just randomly going out for a long walk to hear street music. So many places to meet people, even the pop up classes in parks. The pluses of all there is to do non-stop, much of it free, outweighs the rent .... that he can afford. And if he chooses the city, it's not permanent. He can use some weekends to check out some suburb areas.
This thread has turned into the equivalent of "Which team is better: Yankees or Mets?"
Yankees or Mets
or Braves. Some of us have been through this exact thing without having any ties to the Yankees or the Mets. We were also outsiders. We have had to make these decisions, and know the pros and cons of these decisions. Unlike the Yankees or Mets who will die on that hill .... we look at all the parameters. Play ball!
So no kids. You do understand that I also live in a NYC suburb. You do understand that there is a huge difference continuing to live in the same NYC suburb you grew up in and know people (like I did as well) vs. moving to a NYC suburb alone knowing no one, when most likely the majority of your social life with be with the folks you work with in the city? Apples and oranges.
So true in so many areas. We experienced this. I think if he moved farther out than the river side cities he would be very lonely.
I have nothing to add here - I'm just here for the NYC fights.
I so miss NYC fights! Not the bullets on the subway platform but the corner shout matches.
OP ... I always felt very safe in the city, I walked about an hour from my office to my husbands in SOHO each evening.
Again, you haven’t said where “here” is. In my neck of the woods, a few mikes away, I would think Montclair would be nice for a young professional, although rent would be $2000+ for anything decent. I happen to love where I live too, but this guy, again knows no one, and as a PP pointed out, he will most likely be working long hours (Ds22 works in finance but in Princeton, well actually now remotely, about 12 hours a day and on weekends). I’m not knocking where you live (wherever that is), I just agree with almost everyone else on this thread that he‘d be better off staying close to the office for social and practical reasons. If the OP was asking about her son, daughter in law and kids, I’d say come live by me.
Ah I lived in Montclair and GlenRidge. That is where the $400 monthly commute comes in to play. I think they are great cities if you don't work in NYC.