Op here! I'm home from work, so I'm sorry I wasn't online today to see some of the later responses. I also wasn't able to answer the question about whether others had issues with her. I can only think of a couple of people who saw the way she worked. I was in a leadership role and a bit removed from many people. It can be lonely in my role. I also don't like to get personal with co-workers. I try to always stay upbeat and not wear my emotions on my sleeve.
Here it is in a nutshell:
I walked in to his office to make idle morning chit chat. After about 5 minutes of that, I casually mentioned that I wanted to get back to him about asking for my opinion on "Susie." I said, "Thank you so much for valuing my opinion when it comes to important roles within the organization, but unfortunately I am not able to recommend her for the HR position. If she remains a top candidate, I would be open to validating the concerns that I have." He jumped right into the conversation and told me that he doesn't need anything more because she really wasn't his top candidate after all! He just didn't want to speak negatively of her since he didn't know which way I was going to go with it. He was just being polite to begin with! I think he was just fishing for information. He seemed to be a bit less stressed today. I know he wants to take the time to find the right person even though I know how critical this role is. There are about 200 employees in my company.
So, I am very relieved that I don't have to work with her again. I value team members who are positive, engaging, productive and approachable! I need to lean on HR greatly because of my role. Ying needs to meet Yang here.
Thank you, fellow dissers, for walking me through all of this. I woke up just feeling sick to my stomach knowing that I had to face this head on today. I'm so thankful that it turned out well.
