Yoo Hoo! I am talking to a lawyer in the morning folks. I have done nothing other than bring some things to my house. The will said that I was welcome to remove what was mine from the house. The safe deposit box, where the coin collection was stored had my father's name and my name only on it because the contents of the box was largely meant for me when he passed.
The insurance polices were held in the safe deposit box. The only other things in there were a bunch of meaningless outdated paperwork, my deceased grandfather's wallet (with nothing of value in it, but obviously, Daddy couldn't let it go), a Masonic ring, a couple of shares of stock, a couple of savings bonds, his military discharge papers, and a few cards that my mother had sent to him when they were dating in the early 60's.
I plan on including the Masonic ring from the safe deposit box in the estate. The stock actually grew over time to many shares, but due to the fact that the dividend checks were never cashed, a few years ago the dividend checks started to be turned over to the state and a few years after that, the stock was turned over too. I have already requested a claim form be sent to the house there for us to fill out to get the stock back and then it will be added to the estate. I also checked the status on the bonds and they have already exceeded their value and are still actively earning interest. We will be cashing those out and adding the value to the estate.
The coin collection was stored for safety purposes in the safe deposit box. I had no idea what all was in there. I was very surprised to see the size of the collection. I had to have 2 bank employees help me out of the bank with the contents of the box because all of those coins were very heavy. I had not seen how much the collection had grown since my paternal grandfather passed he had held a large number of coins in a safe deposit box under his and Daddy's names with the instructions to use the coins for my college expenses or save them for when I was older. I have gone through the collection and sorted out the "junk coins" that are old, but not necessarily worth anything, even in melt value. After I talk with the lawyer tomorrow morning, I will know if it will be ok to go ahead and cash out the "junk" and then on Saturday morning, I have an appointment to have the rest of the collection appraised. I doubt that it's worth over $3,000 total, but there is a lot of old silver in there, so I might be surprised. I don't really want to sell it off. I would prefer to hold onto it for a while longer. If the lawyer says that, it has to go into the estate, so be it, but it was supposed to be mine. Again, most of it was gifted to me from my maternal & paternal grandfathers and my parents.
As for the guns, me getting them is not about the value of the guns, it's about finding responsible owners for the guns. If I have to turn over the proceeds from their sale to the estate, I am ok with that. I don't really need a lot of rifles and automatic weaponry. I just want to make sure that they don't end up in irresponsible hands and end up killing someone. That would break my heart.
I would have removed more stuff from the house before I left, but honestly, there is so much stuff in the house, that I could not get to the pieces of furniture that my stuff is being stored in, so I told Lottie that if she will work on making a path, I will get the stuff out on the next trip. She understood and was fine with that.
I don't begrudge Lottie the pension or the SS. I don't begrudge her 1/2 of the estate. I don't begrudge her the 3rd ins policy if it turns out that Daddy did change the beneficiary on that one policy. I am not trying to be an evil person in all of this. I do care about Lottie, but I am not thrilled with the idea of being a half-way landlord. I am not thrilled with potentially having to battle her kids for a house that they never lived in and was paid for by my father, not their mother. I don't really want this to drag on for ages. I don't want this to turn into a mega-meltdown estate settlement deal. I just want this to be settled as quickly, equitably, and peacefully as possible in accordance with his wishes.