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- Jan 22, 2013
We had DMil's 90th Birthday in March, and Dh's family reunion this past wk-end. An estranged nephew joined the families both days after many years of not attending any gatherings. He may be a recovered/ing Alcoholic it's anybodys guess as he didn't say, and no one asked. To-day my adult son called to ask my advice.
Apparently, this cousin will be dropping by his home to visit him, ddil, and dgs with his new girlfriend (he had a different one in March) one day soon. Ds said while they (ddil & he) couldn't say "No" (as cousins they were close growing up); Ds, and ddil regret it now. So.. he asked me what they should do?
First off I reminded him because of his past he may not show as other family members have experienced.
If they do visit entertain them on the patio. Listen to get a feel for his recent life activities. Play it by ear, and offer only that which feels comfortable as the visit unfolds. I advised if it is a problem then politely ask them to leave. Any experiences, and advice you may be able to pass along.
Apparently, this cousin will be dropping by his home to visit him, ddil, and dgs with his new girlfriend (he had a different one in March) one day soon. Ds said while they (ddil & he) couldn't say "No" (as cousins they were close growing up); Ds, and ddil regret it now. So.. he asked me what they should do?
First off I reminded him because of his past he may not show as other family members have experienced.
If they do visit entertain them on the patio. Listen to get a feel for his recent life activities. Play it by ear, and offer only that which feels comfortable as the visit unfolds. I advised if it is a problem then politely ask them to leave. Any experiences, and advice you may be able to pass along.