teambeaman
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New thread idea? When did men become so caddy and start to involve themselves in women's squabbles? When I was a kid the men folk took care of their families and stayed out of the hen house...just saying.
I don't know. I think that poster's background goes a long way to explaining his views.
New thread idea? When did men become so caddy and start to involve themselves in women's squabbles? When I was a kid the men folk took care of their families and stayed out of the hen house...just saying.
New thread idea? When did men become so caddy and start to involve themselves in women's squabbles? When I was a kid the men folk took care of their families and stayed out of the hen house...just saying.
His "prediction" was equally unacceptable. He might as well have just stabbed her in the heart.Regardless, I don't think it's ever acceptable to insinuate that someone's child or grandchild would have been better off with a different family.
His "prediction" was equally unacceptable. He might as well have just stabbed her in the heart.
Regardless, I don't think it's ever acceptable to insinuate that someone's child or grandchild would have been better off with a different family.
The look of pride on faces when their Mom was room Mom and the field trip Mom and the Girl Scot Leader and how their house was the go to house after school because Mom was home to supervise and the hundreds of other moments that they loved.
It wasn't nice but neither have Coonhound's comments been.
There are not enough hours in the day, so basically I get by and 5 hours of sleep a night, every night. I live in a perpetual state of tired. I get up at 4am and get ready for work. I wake DS up around 5:30 so I can spend time with him before I drop him off at daycare at 6:30am. DH picks DS up somewhere between 1-4pm depending on the day (he leaves for work at 4am). I get home sometime between 6-7pm depending on traffic. I spend all of my time when I get home with DS until he goes to bed. Then I cook dinner for the following night, clean, and go to bed. I do laundry on weekend nights after DS goes to bed. I go to the grocery store at night after DS Is sleeping, or I do it on my lunch break. I used to work at a school where I had half the commute I do now. Due to an issue with the principal I was forced to leave the district (despite my perfect evals and record). I took the first job I was offered. We are trying to sell our house and move, but until then I am making the best of the situation.
I feel so guilty about the hours that I'm away from home that I do not take anytime for myself. I have never left DS overnight with anyone, never had a "girls night" with my girlfriends, and have only had 3 date nights with DH since DS was born...he is 3 1/2. I feel like you are implying that I am a horrible mom that is letting my son be raised by strangers. I never in any of my posts, questioned anyone's abilities as a mother, not did I criticize them as mothers. Just because you're a SAHM doesn't mean that you are a better mother than me or that you love your child more than I love mine.
For the record I'm not a "she". My wife stays home and home schools the kids and I made sure I would have a career where I would be able to support my family. Years ago we didn't homeschool, I spent maybe an hour if even that with my son a day, and wasn't involved at all. Now I realize there is nothing more important than involved parents, being in charge of your child's education, and having a mother at home. In ten years you will probably regret having 12 hour workdays with a 2 hour commute to spend your time with other people's kids.
That's been the priceless one for me. I'm not the room mom/scout leader type. I volunteer often but mostly behind the scenes than working with the kids directly, especially when they're small (I relate better to older kids). But having the house where DS16 and his friends hang out is really wonderful. With teens you get to know so much about their "world" when they're around a lot, and it really doesn't take much on my part, just a little tolerance for noise when they're playing Xbox and a bit of patience with the rate at which we go through snacks around here. But we wouldn't have that if I was working because I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with the kids hanging out here unsupervised every afternoon after school or all day in the summer.
Here's what I was going to say before all our roosters got their feathers ruffled. (It's a joke, people - just trying to lighten the mood a bit here, lol.) teambeaman has already said her child is picked up by her husband every day between 1 and 4pm. This is how MANY working professionals run their lives - with teamwork between spouses. Surely people don't think this is unacceptable?
Don't be jealous or beat yourself up about not being in the classroom.Pages and pages back Scoutie mentioned some things that SAHM's have the opportunity to do that made her jealous, like morning coffee dates and mid-day trips to the gym. This right here ^ is what I'm jealous of, and so extremely grateful to the SAHM in our circle that made her home the "headquarters" for a 1/2 dozen very lucky boys over the past 5 years. Cherish this opportunity Colleen - it's making more of a difference in kids' lives than you'll ever really know.
Here's what I was going to say before all our roosters got their feathers ruffled. (It's a joke, people - just trying to lighten the mood a bit here, lol.)
teambeaman has already said her child is picked up by her husband every day between 1 and 4pm. This is how MANY working professionals run their lives - with teamwork between spouses. Surely people don't think this is unacceptable?
teambeaman has already said her child is picked up by her husband every day between 1 and 4pm. This is how MANY working professionals run their lives - with teamwork between spouses. Surely people don't think this is unacceptable?
Don't be jealous or beat yourself up about not being in the classroom.
While some children relish having their parent in the classroom and on all field trips, as a SAHM who spent a bunch of time in the classroom, I have also seen just as many children (if not more) that long for a little independence. They really, really want to be in Mrs. Smith's group rather than once again being in their Mom's group.
Yeah, I don't get why it's all about the mom. Where's the dad in this? Why don't his hours with the kids count?