First thing to do is stop watching the news, especially Fox. Second, I live in Raleigh, NC and I will honestly tell you that until this thread was started it hadn't even passed into a brain cell. I don't worry about things that aren't happening in the exact area where I am. Even if there was going to be a rally in Virginia Beach the odds of it happening when you are there are so slim that you probably have better odds of having a meteor land on your roof. Even if you were there all you have to do is not go in the area where it's happening.
Virginia Beach is a tourist area. It has all the seaside trappings designed to pull tourists in. It isn't a big city, it isn't even close to being one. It is all glitter and bright lights and designed to be a beach resort. Beaches are hard to burn. The silliness of thinking that just because something is further south then NYC is automatically a hotbed of hatred and anger, is unfair and way off the path. The majority of the United States is south of New York City. I don't think that Virginia beach is actually thought of as being "the south" by most people.