AuntieKels
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- Jul 12, 2010
Is it ever ok to contact someone about a RSVP decline?
We have this family that are VERY close friends. The father went to high school with my dad and is a reader in our ceremony, the parents are my Godparents, their daughter is my best friend/roommate/bridesmaid and their son was my brothers BFF/roommate/groomsmen. They are invited to all our family functions. Their son got married almost 4 years ago and we were very involved. I went to 3 (yes, thats right, 3) bridal showers for his bride-to-be and her bachelorette party. I've also been to birthday dinners and graduations for her since then. His wife and I aren't close but we love her because we love her husband and get along just fine.
I had my one and only bridal shower last weekend and I was surprised to see she didn't come. After all, her MIL and SIL were the hosts. I thought maybe because it was a Sunday and they live almost an hour away she just couldn't make it but I was still hurt. Then when I went to my parents house for dinner with all the family that had come into town for the shower I saw the RSVP cards and notices that the son and his wife sent a declining RSVP that said, "Congrats." I cried right on the spot. I couldn't believe it! My mom and sister cried and said they didn't want to tell me before the shower.
What can I do? I'm sad and furious that they didn't even call or explain themselves. I called my friend right away and she and her mom cried over it and didn't know what to tell me. Apparently they are going on vacation that weekend. I've have my wedding date for over a year and sent out save the date cards.
Is it ok to confront them about it? Or would that be just as rude?
Thanks for the advice. sorry this is so long!
We have this family that are VERY close friends. The father went to high school with my dad and is a reader in our ceremony, the parents are my Godparents, their daughter is my best friend/roommate/bridesmaid and their son was my brothers BFF/roommate/groomsmen. They are invited to all our family functions. Their son got married almost 4 years ago and we were very involved. I went to 3 (yes, thats right, 3) bridal showers for his bride-to-be and her bachelorette party. I've also been to birthday dinners and graduations for her since then. His wife and I aren't close but we love her because we love her husband and get along just fine.
I had my one and only bridal shower last weekend and I was surprised to see she didn't come. After all, her MIL and SIL were the hosts. I thought maybe because it was a Sunday and they live almost an hour away she just couldn't make it but I was still hurt. Then when I went to my parents house for dinner with all the family that had come into town for the shower I saw the RSVP cards and notices that the son and his wife sent a declining RSVP that said, "Congrats." I cried right on the spot. I couldn't believe it! My mom and sister cried and said they didn't want to tell me before the shower.
What can I do? I'm sad and furious that they didn't even call or explain themselves. I called my friend right away and she and her mom cried over it and didn't know what to tell me. Apparently they are going on vacation that weekend. I've have my wedding date for over a year and sent out save the date cards.
Is it ok to confront them about it? Or would that be just as rude?
Thanks for the advice. sorry this is so long!