A great site to use for your research is city data....google it. You can put in the name of the town and it will give you the crime rates, median home prices, demographics and such. Then they have message boards so you can ask specific questions to people who actually live in those areas.
To answer your question, I think my little village fits exactly what you want! We are 1 hour 15 mins from NYC, have an airport 20 mins away, and 3 others within an hour and a half. Our schools are one of the top in the area, and our special Ed programs are fantastic. My son was in early intervention and had delays and needed therapies like speech and I cannot tell you how wonderful our district has been. I live in the village and within walking distance are stores and restaurants, library, post office, etc. It is such a great small town and I really love it. We will be here 8 years this Dec and I would not live anywhere else. It is so beautiful here with all the horse farms, rolling hills, and lots of skiing nearby. We have a lot of shopping, restaurants, movie theaters close by, as well as play houses, concert halls, etc.... I could go on and on, lol. PM me if you are interested in the name and also the town next to us is just as great too!
To answer your question, I think my little village fits exactly what you want! We are 1 hour 15 mins from NYC, have an airport 20 mins away, and 3 others within an hour and a half. Our schools are one of the top in the area, and our special Ed programs are fantastic. My son was in early intervention and had delays and needed therapies like speech and I cannot tell you how wonderful our district has been. I live in the village and within walking distance are stores and restaurants, library, post office, etc. It is such a great small town and I really love it. We will be here 8 years this Dec and I would not live anywhere else. It is so beautiful here with all the horse farms, rolling hills, and lots of skiing nearby. We have a lot of shopping, restaurants, movie theaters close by, as well as play houses, concert halls, etc.... I could go on and on, lol. PM me if you are interested in the name and also the town next to us is just as great too!