I'd say something like "hey I know that WDW is often a family trip & your DH is wanting that family trip. I know he's never shown interest in Disney & now he is, that must be exciting for u & your son! I think we will bow out on this trip so you can enjoy your family trip. Let's talk soon to plan our future girls trip!"
Short & sweet. Then if she says oh well now he doesn't want to go, then you can decide how to proceed.
But this isn't clear that you will not be paying for it. It just says, "Great, you guys go and have fun."
Just be completely honest. This is a trip that would be a lot of fun for you 2 and the kids but the dynamic is completely different with her dh there and that's not the trip you were offering. YOU'RE not being rude, you're being put in an extremely awkward position by your friend and her dh. I think if you let her dh invite himself along, whether you foot the bill or not, you will probably resent it for a very long time. This has the potential to do serious damage to your friendship.
My reading comprehension skills must be lacking. I missed the part where the OP said that she had debts. However, even if she does, it would not be irresponsible for her to spend a portion of her inherited money to do something which she enjoys as long as she has the debt under control and has a payment plan that she is following.Well you did post this in a budget/financial part of the board so I will put my 2 cents in.
Personally using money that you inherited for a vacation is very dumb let alone for other people.
Yes vacations are fun but if you have any debt it's un responsible to blow that on fun.
I know it's not the most popular way to think but being an adult isn't always fun.
why would you take money that could be used to be closer to debt free and instead waste it on a vacation.My reading comprehension skills must be lacking. I missed the part where the OP said that she had debts. However, even if she does, it would not be irresponsible for her to spend a portion of her inherited money to do something which she enjoys as long as she has the debt under control and has a payment plan that she is following.
why would you take money that could be used to be closer to debt free and instead waste it on a vacation.
But I guess there is a reason this country is in trillions of dollars in debt because of your thinking.
>>>>why would you take money that could be used to be closer to debt free and instead waste it on a vacation.
But I guess there is a reason this country is in trillions of dollars in debt because of your thinking.
Now that's a bit harsh. If you've read much on this board you would not be taking Marionnette to task for being fiscally irresponsible.
Well you did post this in a budget/financial part of the board so I will put my 2 cents in.
Personally using money that you inherited for a vacation is very dumb let alone for other people.
Yes vacations are fun but if you have any debt it's un responsible to blow that on fun.
I know it's not the most popular way to think but being an adult isn't always fun.
why would you take money that could be used to be closer to debt free and instead waste it on a vacation.
But I guess there is a reason this country is in trillions of dollars in debt because of your thinking.
Interesting comment from someone with a trip countdown in their own signature.why would you take money that could be used to be closer to debt free and instead waste it on a vacation.
But I guess there is a reason this country is in trillions of dollars in debt because of your thinking.
The only thing I can think of is to say something like, "Wow, I'm shocked John wants to go. I was really thinking we'd do a girls and kids trip, since we all love Disney so much. If you think you want to experience Disney World as a family before we do our girls' trip, I totally understand. I will keep the money ear-marked for our girls' trip and we'll do it another time."
Good luck!