It was rented with a family from New Jersey. We saw them, saw their car, their bathing suits drying on the line, the occupants standing on the deck gazing out to the sound in the evening sunset. Outer Beaches denied it was occupied and kept our deposit. We had no recourse because we'd not taken pics or had no proof -never thought they'd try to cheat us.)
Just a possibility... it could have been the owners, or their friends or family using the house for free. We have a friend that will let us use her beach house on occasion when it is not rented, and all we pay is the cleaning fee. But if it was something like that, then the house was technically not "rented" and you would not get your deposit back.
I've never rented a house before so nervous about going through real estate companies
I have rented quite a few houses from
www.homeaway.com It is rentals by the home owners, and very few are handled by realtors. We have rented from them 6 times, and have not had a bad experience yet.
As for the beaches, quite a bit of the Outer Banks are very rural... no big restaurants or chain grocery stores, evening entertainment, etc. You really are going there for the peace and quiet. Many do not have paved roads, and a 4-wheel drive is recommended to reach your house, and you drive on the beach. I personally won't go to beaches that allow driving on the beach because of my kids. Just something to keep in mind to ask about when contacting anyone about a rental.
Many of the outer banks have wild horses that you can go to see. Corolla (northern OBX) and Shackleford Island (southern OBX) come to mind first. A private ferry is generally around $10-$15 per person round trip. They will drop you off at the island, and arrange a pick-up time to come back for you. Take your swimsuit, picnic, beach chairs and enjoy the day watching the horses, then swimming on a "private" beach. Last time we did this we saw MAYBE 10 people in 4 hours time. (We went to Shackleford.)
Southern Shores is a nice area. Manteo, Kitty Hawk and the Wright Brothers Memorial, Kill Devil Hills and Jockey's Ridge, you can climb the Currituck lighthouse. There are plenty of restaurants, shopping, and movies and such to do in the area.
Our favorite beach is Atlantic Beach. Lots to do in that area... aquarium, putt putt, Fort Macon, Beaufort waterfront, Shackleford Island. It is located on the same island as Emerald Isle... Atlantic is the north end and Emerald Isle is the south end, about 17 miles apart. In between you can find hotels, condos, and private homes for rent. You are then a 20 minute drive from either end of the island, so you can easily experience everything both towns have to offer.