I would just respond, thank you for thinking of us, unfortunately, we are unable to attend. They should understand that most people from far away may not be able to attend due to finances, time, or both. You shouldn't have to "spell it out".
Can't afford an out of state wedding, what do I tell them. It's to much $$ to fly 5 people and not enough time off to drive, I feel bad because all the other aunts/uncles/cousins will be there. Just need some input please
We live out of state from nieces and nephews and I expect to be invited to their weddings because we are close and they want us there, not so that we will send regrets and a nice gift.Or you can just tell them that you just cannot make it. The out of state invitations are more for gifts then attendance anyway. They all know that some cannot make the trip. Don't worry about it. It's not a big deal.
My point was that, of course, they would like you to be there. However, if they were presented with the concept that you couldn't go AND you couldn't send a wedding gift, human nature would usually tend to lean in the gift side of the equation to be upset about. Besides, I am speaking in general terms not specifically of your family whom I don't even know.We live out of state from nieces and nephews and I expect to be invited to their weddings because we are close and they want us there, not so that we will send regrets and a nice gift.
However, if we couldn't go, I am sure they would understand. I would really do what I could to attend though even if it meant traveling alone and staying with a family member.