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Please tell me what you think. Because I am racking my brain trying to decided on this.
Here is our story..dunnn...dunnn....lol
My DS4 is going to be 5 in September. He JUST makes the cut off for going to K this year as it has now been changed to November 1st. So he will be 4 when he starts.
My son seems so babyish to me still. He sounds a little babyish when he talks and you cannot make out every word he says. He still carry's a blankie and still takes a nap. He can get through the day without one..but at 6:30pm he is the devil.
He was in preschool when he was 3 and it was only 1 day per week and I was there with him, it was a mommy and me program.
This past year being 4 he was in a preschool program where he went 3 hours per day, 3 days per week which was costing me $145 per month.
Our school district used to have this program called the young fives program which I knew three years ago I would want him to be in. Unfortunately they did away with this program.
Where he is with his learning is..he can write his first name, he can recognize his first name..he can't cut very well and sometimes holds the scissors wrong..he only knows 5 letters of the alphabet and can count to about 13. He has a short attention span. He gets frustrated easily. DS 10 has ADHD and I hope that DS4 will not have it..but I know chances are stacked against us. Preschool teacher recommended either half day or preschool again..because she doesn't want him to get overwhelmed and hate school.
So now, our choices are...pay for preschool again...if we cant get a spot..
go to HALF day K in which case I will drive and pick up on my lunch hour. not a biggie.
OR go for it and go to full day K
Here is a list of my pro's and cons..
Half Day..Pro's..he will not be so overwhelmed with all the academics and not get as frustrated having to sit all day. He will still be able to come home and take a nap.
Con's-He will not get as much socializing or play, and they will try to cram just as much information into his brain with less time..I am worried he will be completely lost and a total crying mess and shut down..because he still seems like a baby to me..I will still have to have my mother in law over (paid) to watch him half a day.
Full day..Pro's..he can take the bus with his brother (DS10 who is in 5th grade and this will be his last year there before MS). He will get to have lunch at school, more time for friends and socialization and more reinforcement of subjects..Con's..I am truly afraid he will get lost there..He is not that great at following directions..and is easily distracted..i am scared he will get in trouble all the time for not sitting and not listening..or just truly not understand what is being said to him. I know that all I can do is try..but I just don't want to make him hate school and feel bad about himself and it is also not so good for my mommy ego either..He cannot take his blanket with him..
Also, if he is going to preK OR half day K these are at different schools than our "home" school. They only have the full time..at our home school.
So these are the K thoughts that are rattling around in my brain...Please let me know what you would do..or have don with your children..
Thanks!!!!
If you are having ANY qualms, and it sounds like you are, with a late fall birthday and a Nov. cutoff, I would wait and send him to K next year. I've only skimmed a few of the posts, so I admit that I haven't read the entire thread, but the "red-shirting" that I saw PP's referring to doesn't seem apply here. You have a legitimate reason for wanting your child to stay back - he is not ready to go. I'm so sorry that your district did away with the young-fives program...that is a perfect transition for *young fives* between preschool and full-fledged K.
I have two kids born at the very end of June, and in Michigan, where they started school, the age cutoff is December 1. They were always one of the youngest kids in their classes because we *did* offer a young 5's for kids born between July 1-Nov30th, which my kids with birthdays on June 28th and June 29th did not qualify for but everyone younger than them did. We have since moved to Illinois, where the age cutoff is September 1, so now, not only are they almost the VERY youngest, they are almost 2 years younger than some of the kids in their class. My DS13, for example, is going into 8th grade and JUST turned 13 a few weeks ago, while some of his friends have been 13 for a whole year and will be turning 14 soon. Some will even be turning 15 in a few months.
My youngest, who was born in Feb. is usually in the "younger" 1/2 of his class, too, because of all the kids who didn't make the Sept.1 cut-off. His best friend will be turning 8 on Sept 6th. He's almost 6 months older than my February-born child!
Here is my experience, for what it is worth:
Your child may struggle as a young 5 in Kindergarten, or he may not.
Once your child reaches Middle School, you will see a HUGe difference in the maturity level between your son and the kids who are a year (or more) older than he is. My oldest was always one of the youngest kids, but always a head taller. Once he reached 6th-7th grade, everyone started growing except for him, which makes sense becuase he was a Whole Year Younger! So now he is not "tall", and looks small(er)for his age. Not the hugest deal for us because now he looks more "typical" LOL, but if your child is on the smaller side to begin with, expect that everyone else in his grade will tower above him throughout Middle School.
Your child will always be hanging out with peers that are between 1-2 years older than he is - again, not a big deal in K, but once Middle School and high school start, he will still be thinking Cartoon Network and his peers will be thinking rated R movies. he will still be thinking girls are gross, but his peers will have girlfriends.
Lastly, I would encourage you to talk to people who have decided to delay K for a year with a young 5. I have yet to meet a parent who kept their kid out of K for that extra year who REGRET it, but I have met LOT of parents who pushed their kid into K as a young 5 and have suffered the reprucussions year after year, both socially and academically.
Also remember, no matter what you decide to do, the best indicator of academic success is parental involvement. Partner with your child's teacher and work TOGETHER every year to help your child with whatever he needs to succeed.
Good luck with whatever you decide!