The expense is not the issue for my mom. She has lots of money. She "has to have a life too" and therefore wants to go a visit her sisters and mine and therefore does not have the time off to visit us.
I did mention that a summer wedding on the weekend would be more convenient and logical if you expect someone to come out of town and was told that it saver her 500 and therefore it was better for her.
Apparently my $$ issues are of no concern to them. Also it would take 2 hours to get to the airport 6 hrs in flight, another hr to get luggage,get rental (we are 5 so we would need a minivan) and 2 hrs to get where we are going, so since it is Friday night we could not even pull DS out of the end of the week even if we could afford it.
I was also informed that though we would not be invited to the rehearsal, I would be expected to have a girls night (another words no kids) to help out in preparing the food. There would of course be lots of alcohol and food for me, but when I said I could leave my DH with 5 yr, 2 yr, and 5 week old in a hotel this also caused major drama.
Its just that my mom and I were close, talking 2-3 times a week even though she did not come and visit. Now, every time she calls its to fight about the wedding and not seeing her boys. I actually now dread her calls. So, when I got the email this morning when I've made it clear we can not go, I'm so tense and near tears because I know I'm going to get another call.
I did mention that a summer wedding on the weekend would be more convenient and logical if you expect someone to come out of town and was told that it saver her 500 and therefore it was better for her.
Apparently my $$ issues are of no concern to them. Also it would take 2 hours to get to the airport 6 hrs in flight, another hr to get luggage,get rental (we are 5 so we would need a minivan) and 2 hrs to get where we are going, so since it is Friday night we could not even pull DS out of the end of the week even if we could afford it.
I was also informed that though we would not be invited to the rehearsal, I would be expected to have a girls night (another words no kids) to help out in preparing the food. There would of course be lots of alcohol and food for me, but when I said I could leave my DH with 5 yr, 2 yr, and 5 week old in a hotel this also caused major drama.
Its just that my mom and I were close, talking 2-3 times a week even though she did not come and visit. Now, every time she calls its to fight about the wedding and not seeing her boys. I actually now dread her calls. So, when I got the email this morning when I've made it clear we can not go, I'm so tense and near tears because I know I'm going to get another call.
Tell your sister that if you come to the wedding, you won't be able to afford to get her a gift.
If you don't come, you will send her a nice card and $500. See what she says
Also remind her that you will have a 5 week old baby that will likely cry a lot during the ceremony and reception
Then tell your mother that if she can afford $1000 for airfare to get you to the wedding, she can afford to come visit you and see her grandkids.
Weekday weddings are a bit rude, IMO My SIL got married on a Thursday b/c it was cheaper for her, which meant my DH had to be there for the rehearsal on Wednesday which meant 3 days off from work and pulling my son out of school for 3 days.