Mouse House Mama
Luckiest Mommy in the World!!!
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- Aug 28, 2004
This is a great post.To be honest, I think the 3rd one was a breeze.
The second child is the one who really teaches you how to juggle. You have to balance the needs of one child against the needs of another.
A third child just makes you juggle a little faster. Honest, it was no big deal.
Sure, we do have a minivan (I LOVE the extra room!) And it is more expensive to get a hotel room than it was with 2. But these things are minor compared to the love and affection that family gets and gives to our now 6 year old "big girl."
And they do NOT "gang up" on me, in public or otherwise. Drive me nuts, certainly. But there's not a lot of guesswork as to who is in charge.
We have 4 children. All of them are 20-22 months apart. They are currently very young. It is not chaotic. It is not crazy. At least not for us. We like the hustle and bustle so you do have to be able to be okay with that as there is a certain amount of that that comes along with a larger family. I take all 4 of them everywhere with me. They never gang up on me. I am in charge and there is no question about that. Is it sometimes a challenge when a little one is having a bad day? Absolutely! BUT- You can still have that challenge with only one child. They do not fight for attention. They are close to each other and don't really argue with each other except for the occasional "move over". Each child has their own activities that they participate in. We all support each one. We also make sure to spend one on one time with each child often. We take them on alone outings etc. They are a unit in that we are a family and family helps each other etc., but they are individuals with different needs and interests and we encourage that. They are fiercely protective of each other and will not put up with anyone (other kids etc.) treating their siblings badly. I only hope that they will always be close.
We travel as much as we can and while it can be expensive we make it work. I would also like to point out that my DH is amazing. He can do all of the duties that I do. That is important. He is an equal partner here and he isn't the type of man who considers taking care of his kids "babysitting." He loves being with his kids and truly enjoys them. I think that is important.
Good luck with whatever you decide.