Have you ever been to a funeral where there should NOT have been an open casket? I had a friend pass away very unexpectedly about 10 days ago. He was 39. I was shocked. He and I had been VERY close in high school and college, even talked a lot about starting a relationship but I just could never "like" him in that way so it didn't work out. Unfortunately after college graduation we lost touch, only to reconnect about a year ago thanks to FB. We had talked week before last, next thing I know his family has posted his visitation info on his FB page. THAT is how I found out he died.
WARNING: NEXT PART IS GRAPHIC RE: BODY IN CASKET.
Anyway, I attended the visitation and I know I must have visibly blanched when I saw him. I have never, ever in my life seen a body that looked so much like...well....a corpse....at a funeral before (and I have been to plenty of them). His lips were BLUE. I am not kidding, blue. His skin was a yellowish sallow pasty color, it's the exact color my grandmother turned right after she died. I could not BELIEVE they would display him in that state. You could see the makeup kind of smeared all over his face, but they didn't bother to put any color on him at all, and NOTHING on his lips. I truly kid you not when I say they were blue, with a very thin layer of makeup smeared over them. It was bizarre.
A very respected funeral home handled the remains, in fact they did my grandmother and seriously, she looked better in the casket than she had in YEARS...everyone commented on it. Her face was warm and stress free, and she looked like she was sleeping. My friend literally looked like a dead body.
I can't get the image out of my head and almost wish I hadn't gone, or at least hadn't gone over to the casket. Seriously, if I had been his family I would have either demanded they redo it, or just closed the casket. That is not the way anyone should have to remember him.
WARNING: NEXT PART IS GRAPHIC RE: BODY IN CASKET.
Anyway, I attended the visitation and I know I must have visibly blanched when I saw him. I have never, ever in my life seen a body that looked so much like...well....a corpse....at a funeral before (and I have been to plenty of them). His lips were BLUE. I am not kidding, blue. His skin was a yellowish sallow pasty color, it's the exact color my grandmother turned right after she died. I could not BELIEVE they would display him in that state. You could see the makeup kind of smeared all over his face, but they didn't bother to put any color on him at all, and NOTHING on his lips. I truly kid you not when I say they were blue, with a very thin layer of makeup smeared over them. It was bizarre.
A very respected funeral home handled the remains, in fact they did my grandmother and seriously, she looked better in the casket than she had in YEARS...everyone commented on it. Her face was warm and stress free, and she looked like she was sleeping. My friend literally looked like a dead body.
I can't get the image out of my head and almost wish I hadn't gone, or at least hadn't gone over to the casket. Seriously, if I had been his family I would have either demanded they redo it, or just closed the casket. That is not the way anyone should have to remember him.