I just wanted to chime in and say to have a wonderful time on your trip! We'll be there October 6th-12th and this will be our third October in a row that we have gone.
Wow! Thank you for all the info!
We LOVE Disney in the fall. The Food and Wine Festival at Epcot is amazing. We went to our first
MNSSHP last year and can't wait to go back again.
A couple of suggestions:
I would plan on doing the party on arrival night (the crowd calendar looks much more favorable on that night vs. the rest of the holiday weekend). Not knowing what time you get in, I would take it easy at your resort for most of the afternoon, then plan to be at MK by 4 for the party. Use the hours of 4 to 6 to ride rides at MK. Then plan to be in line for the 7 Dwarfs or the princesses by about 6. (We got in line for the Dwarfs last year at 5:45 and were the first people in line, the Dwarfs came out early and we were through with the meet and greet by 6:50, so we didn't waste any official party time in that line!).
My DH said the same thing, but I am afraid she might be too tired for the next day (her birthday). We schedule the breakfast for 8 am. We get in at 9am on Thursday, so we will have almost the whole day to do whatever. We were almost thinking Epcot b/c of the w & f festival. Maybe it wouldn't be too busy that day? But we want to do Soarin' and I am afraid we will have a long wait time b/c we probably won't get to the park until 11, after getting in from the airport and all. We are flying in on SW and they were just added to the baggage pick up, so hopefully we will be able to do that. We were even considering taking a cab from the airport so we don't get stuck on the WDW bus system thingy! We are really trying to make plans, but we are waiting for the official schedule to come out about the MNSSHP. Plus, I thought it would be fun for her to be at the parade on her birthday because they will see her birthday pin. Thank you for the heads up about the Dwarfs. Does Disney give a daily schedule of meet and greets, times and places?
For the 5th -- I would do 1900 Park Fare breakfast like you had planned (I've heard nothing but raves about it). Then plan to be at MK all day until the Halloween party starts at 7. Visiting MK on a party day is great because so many guests avoid party days because of the short hours, so you end up with empty parks and you get waaaaaay more done than you would have on a day with longer hours!
Then plan to eat her birthday dinner at 'Ohana (it's soooo good and fun for kids!). Or you could do the Lilo and Stitch breakfast at 'Ohana that morning and then go to 1900 Park Fare for dinner (it's Cinderella, Prince Charming and the stepsisters at dinner). Just another idea I'm throwing out there.
Staying at the MK the whole day was our plan. That is about the only day we know for sure what we would like to do, the only question is what day to do the MNSSHP. We definitely want to something awesome for dinner, but not so much a character dinner because we are doing that in the am. I was really interested in 'Ohana. It sounds like so much fun.
The 6th is going to be crazy busy, but like others have said, just plan to be at your chosen park when it opens. I would probably make this your DHS day. DHS has been listing an opening time of 9 a.m. but actually letting people in at 8:30, so plan to get there between 8:15 and 8:30. Make sure you go straight to Toy Story Mania and grab a fastpass then jump in the standby line. The reason I chose DHS over Epcot for this day is because the Food and Wine Festival makes Epcot ridiculously crowded on Saturdays. So you're better off going to Epcot on Sunday.
I am so glad to hear from a Vetran that my husband and I are on the right track. We were thinking this be the DHS day. It sounds like our arrival day and the last day are the one's in question! We like the idea of Epcot on arrival day, but we thought it would be really hard to keep her from the MK. But not so much if we do the MNSSHP that night. We could ride the rides...Ooooo, I am getting so excited!!
The 7th -- If you wanted to do another character meal, you could try for a pre-opening breakfast at Akershus in the World Showcase, it's a princess meal. That would get you in the park nice and early. If you want to try some of the food at the Food and Wine kiosks, plan to be in the WS close to its opening (11 a.m.), there won't be any lines at the kiosks at that time.
I know this is a ton of information I'm throwing at you. Feel free to PM me with any questions you might have. But you guys are going to have SUCH a good time, and your DD is in for the surprise of her life!