Those are for you and your dad!
So many thoughts...
I thought your biggest problem was going to be the live-in witch, before your trip (I'd replied to a thread about her with stuff about my ex-boyfriends now-late stepmother, who took over his dad's entire life, in order to hide HER secret life). Wowie I was wrong.
Did you ever get in touch with your uncle, to find out what on earth happened with this supposed text/voicemail message?
I was thinking either drugs or alcohol, or, as I thought and my husband said...does SHE have some serious blood sugar issues? Before my husband was diagnosed, he would blast his blood sugar through the roof (so we assume) and then pick the rudest fights with me, just be a jerk-galore. I remember the week after he was diagnosed, I had called all over town to find a class he could take asap, found one, found someone who would stay after her shift was over at a local hospital to get him a free monitor and go over with him how to use it, and at the same time he had eaten something stupid (we were still very scared and he was still doing that) and he picked a fight with our son right there, and we were an hour late...his blood sugar was ridiculous, even an hour after that... Things are MUCH calmer now, and if he starts getting touchy, when he tests, we always find out he's gone up a bit. The sort of behaviour your cousin was doing, the mood swings...it just sounded like my husband when he was having wild swings. Now, just with diet and exercise (and cinnamon the wonder-plant!) his blood sugars are in the 80s and 90s, and a wild swing is 110, so it's not a terrifying thing...but despite what I was pretending just a year ago...we wouldn't have lasted much longer with the fights he was picking with me, and how far he would push over the most trivial nonsense (first time I've ever posted that online).
She doesn't seem to like her husband much.
But they seem to have a fight/make up relationship. That's how it was with my ex; we spent 2 years doing that. Towards the end we wouldn't even tell our friends we'd gotten back together, as by the time the word got to everyone, we knew we'd have broken up again. It might be exciting (thinking of your cousin's locked-door using-the-jacuzzi evening), but it's not actually *fun*.
I hate that she held your dad's present hostage.
As much as I want to blame monica, I'm sure her husband was up to no good as well...
It must be so hard, being from a counseling background, to encounter people who don't say what they mean, and who think that you aren't saying what you are meaning as well. I'm sure it's hard on them, too, constantly trying to find subtext and thinking the worst, but on some level they must KNOW that they don't tell the truth... It just must have been so hard on you.
Now I'll be running through the family dynamics all night, as our first WDW trip will likely be an extended (time-wise) family reunion...the locals aunt and cousin (and cousin's family) are disney fans and know the parks from experience, and I don't think they think a website can help, and I'm sure they'll want to show it all to us while I'll have *some* ideas...I'm hoping there's no conflict that I'm unaware of, and that they'll be OK if we're not glued to their sides the whole time...then again, we'll stay much longer than they'll stay, so maybe we could just be glued, and have unglued time later.
I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that, I'm glad you had some (many?) moments of fun that were able to, temporarily at least, quiet the "what is happening" questions, and that your dad got his great present and got to see his brother.
Thank you so much for sharing your trip with us.