Hello all. I am having some problems with my son who just turned 9 last week.
Well I'm gonna start it like this. I had a son from my first marriage and his birth father is now in prison for the rest of his life. Well my son has so many of his mannerisms. He hasn't been in his life since he was 10 months old so he doesn't know him at all. My husband now has always been dad we even gave my son DH middle name when he adopted him. This is really scary to me.
DS is repeating the second grade this year. We have him on ADD meds but I believe he doesn't need it. And the only thing I see it helping is his conduct grade. We got his progress report and he has 7 F's already
I have taken everything from him birthday party toys he loves transformers and I took all those. Everything!!! I let him watch TV and go outside on the weekends. My husband is deployed and hates to see me going through this.
My DS used to have a theft problem but I am sad to say as a mom I had to beat that out of him. We would go to my friends house and a day or 2 later they call cause they are missing toys. Now that I hope that is over.
I just don't know what to do. I just look at the F's he brings home and all I could do is shake my head and walk away. Every time I see the school phone number on caller ID my hearts stops. Now I know I sound funny saying this. But he isn't a bad kid. He is really funny and gets excited about things we do in like. He is really a family boy. I just don't know what to do with him in school. If someone can help me give me advise that is new that would be great. I am loosing my baby. I want him to to get out of that kid no one wants in their class. I want him to shine at school like he shines at home. TIA Disneygal.
After having assorted schooling problems with all four children I can share what I would do. First is request an IME based on a 504 possibility. this will determin the correct method of teaching style best for your son to learn in and that is what he needs. My older son had a higher IQ then the kids in the gifted rogram but needed an IME and smaller classromm for almost all his classes. He was mainstreamed for Science, and the arts, music, etc.
He soared, by high school he was still in special classes for tutorning needs if her needed it, in 11th and 12th he had been completly mainstreamed, but also had all A's and named to Who;s who among students in US. I was so proud and glad, at 8 yrs old they identified his specialized needs and implementing them instead of frustration.
Also, about the Dad, he only gets one half the gene pool from him, I would not worry that he is going to be unfocused and probmatic, I bet the fathers upbringing was more lax and unstructured and frustrating that he acted out for attention. Your special little man just needs the right environment. Maybe dad had undiagx learning needs and no supportive family to help him through it turning to poor peer relationships.
The best thing you can do is contact the guidance office with a request for an IEP, that you think he would qualify under a 504, (AMericans with disability Act, Adaptive educational support)
The things my gifted but high anxiety/panic disorder daughter has been suggested are: marking all the correct questions instead of the wrong questions, transitional notification from one task ending to the next one starting, a smaller classroom, or taking teest alone intimed, with up to one class period longer to take it.
Right now I enrolled her in cyber school that is structuring a new IEp to fit their formatt, as the middle school she will not even walk through the doors with school phobia. Even with the structure school not being a stress factor, she is easily overwhelmed by the gifted program demands, but can do the work...she has trouble with power off and not being able to face the next day if she has unfisnished task already.
She is in an 8th grade pre-algrbra too, but it is very upsetting when she can do the work, but shakes and gets upset when it is so demanding. I wonder where the happy medicium is, she hates not being challanged, but burns out???
I wish you luck, be persistant, and make them do the IEP ASAP!!!!! This will take a lot of pressure off you both.
Good luck
dianne