beautybelle
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Dec 11, 2002
I have a long story and Im at my wits end on what to do.
I went to my best friends wedding this weekend and while I was there I sat down to eat across from her sister and her boyfriend. I was there all of 5 minutes before realizing that little sis was in HUGE trouble, Im really trying to make this story as short as I can so Im leaving out a lot of detail but I will say that it took every ounce of willpower I had not to lunge across the table and grab that $#%# by the throat. So I done the next logical thing, I went straight into the house and got her mother and took her to a back bedroom and told her that "little sis" is in trouble (Oh I was about to leave out that "little sis" is leaving at the end of July to move south with this jerk and that shes only 18) and while I was explaining what I found out she was agreeing with me the whole time and then proceeds to tell me that the jerk (and Im being nice here) kicked her and almost broke her leg just 2 days prior. I asked the mom why the jerk wasnt in the ICU unit at the hospital because had it been my daughter he wouldnt have been able to walk out of my house on his own. But anyway she also proceeds to tell me of other things he's done. I told her that he is going to take her to SC and cut her off from any friends and family that would support her at all. Well during my conversation with the mom I realized that she is wanting her gone and out of her hair. Mom isnt willing to step in. I told her that if she would cut off "little sis" funds she COULDNT go to SC and would have to stay home. She wont do it.
Ok next step was to tell "big sis". I told her what I knew and what mom said as well and still there was no support forthcoming. Oh "big sis" is a police officer too.
I lived over 7 years in a very abusive relationship and I can pick up the signs very quickly and I know without a doubt in my mind that if she goes to SC with this guy it could be very very bad news. Im worried sick about it because I know that nobody is going to even try to help her. I told her that night before she left that I wanted to take her out to eat and that I wanted to talk to her about something but she knew something was up with me because of how I treated jerk all night. I dont know what to say to her other than maybe tell her my story and hope she picks up on the signs (the kick alone should've been more than enough) but I need to do something and I know that if I go into it throwing crappy remarks about jerk then it will only push her closer to him and defend him and make me look like the bad guy.
If her mom would cut off her funds I would let her come stay with me but thats just not going to happen.
I cant go to sleep hardly without thinking about whats going on.
What do I do now? Its a very serious situation that will get worse if she leaves and time is closing in. I truly love this little girl (and to me thats what she is) I remember keeping her when she was about my daughters age and running around with long blond hair just bouncing all over the place and a dirty face. Shes just a 18 year old baby and this piece of sh!^ that shes "in love with" is treating her like an old rug. He knows I know, I made it very clear to him the night of the wedding. My husband asked me after it was overwith why I was so mean to "little sis" boyfriend. I told him and now he's with me.
Gosh, what am I going to do? What am I going to do?
I went to my best friends wedding this weekend and while I was there I sat down to eat across from her sister and her boyfriend. I was there all of 5 minutes before realizing that little sis was in HUGE trouble, Im really trying to make this story as short as I can so Im leaving out a lot of detail but I will say that it took every ounce of willpower I had not to lunge across the table and grab that $#%# by the throat. So I done the next logical thing, I went straight into the house and got her mother and took her to a back bedroom and told her that "little sis" is in trouble (Oh I was about to leave out that "little sis" is leaving at the end of July to move south with this jerk and that shes only 18) and while I was explaining what I found out she was agreeing with me the whole time and then proceeds to tell me that the jerk (and Im being nice here) kicked her and almost broke her leg just 2 days prior. I asked the mom why the jerk wasnt in the ICU unit at the hospital because had it been my daughter he wouldnt have been able to walk out of my house on his own. But anyway she also proceeds to tell me of other things he's done. I told her that he is going to take her to SC and cut her off from any friends and family that would support her at all. Well during my conversation with the mom I realized that she is wanting her gone and out of her hair. Mom isnt willing to step in. I told her that if she would cut off "little sis" funds she COULDNT go to SC and would have to stay home. She wont do it.
Ok next step was to tell "big sis". I told her what I knew and what mom said as well and still there was no support forthcoming. Oh "big sis" is a police officer too.
I lived over 7 years in a very abusive relationship and I can pick up the signs very quickly and I know without a doubt in my mind that if she goes to SC with this guy it could be very very bad news. Im worried sick about it because I know that nobody is going to even try to help her. I told her that night before she left that I wanted to take her out to eat and that I wanted to talk to her about something but she knew something was up with me because of how I treated jerk all night. I dont know what to say to her other than maybe tell her my story and hope she picks up on the signs (the kick alone should've been more than enough) but I need to do something and I know that if I go into it throwing crappy remarks about jerk then it will only push her closer to him and defend him and make me look like the bad guy.
If her mom would cut off her funds I would let her come stay with me but thats just not going to happen.
I cant go to sleep hardly without thinking about whats going on.
What do I do now? Its a very serious situation that will get worse if she leaves and time is closing in. I truly love this little girl (and to me thats what she is) I remember keeping her when she was about my daughters age and running around with long blond hair just bouncing all over the place and a dirty face. Shes just a 18 year old baby and this piece of sh!^ that shes "in love with" is treating her like an old rug. He knows I know, I made it very clear to him the night of the wedding. My husband asked me after it was overwith why I was so mean to "little sis" boyfriend. I told him and now he's with me.
Gosh, what am I going to do? What am I going to do?