Nancyg56
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 17, 2005
Daleswife- Now I understand that there is way more to this than a little extra shopping. I am a firm believer in providing help to those who need it but for some reason are struggling. I cannot ever condone the favoritism your Mother is showing. There is a huge difference between purchasing school clothes for children who would otherwise have none and refusing to go out of your way to visit children and I cannot understand why your parents do this. It is hurtful and your children should not have to feel as though they are second place in a race of two.
It is no secret that I am a nana and that Dh and I dote on our Kady. As I said earlier I appreciated that my DDIL expressed her feelings when she thought that I favored my DD over my DS as it gave me an opportunity to let her know that I love all my children, and I include her in my children, but generally do not shop for them all at the same time. I think that while I would not discuss the money spent, I would discuss the blatant favoritism that Mom is showing the other children and how that hurts your DD.
I am not excusing your Mother's behavior, I do not condone it, but I wonder if she is overcompensating for your sister anad does not even realize how this is affecting the rest of the family. An honest conversation can at least make her aware of how her actions are percieved and give her the opportunity to eiother make changes or to tell you that she is not going to change. If you know you can adjust. If you stay silent you cannot change the behavior and you will continue to feel hurt. I must say that I am sorry to read this, I really hate when parents do not make sure that their family knows that financial assistance will never take the place of time and when theythen do not give the time to their family. It is really such a shame and such a loss.
It is no secret that I am a nana and that Dh and I dote on our Kady. As I said earlier I appreciated that my DDIL expressed her feelings when she thought that I favored my DD over my DS as it gave me an opportunity to let her know that I love all my children, and I include her in my children, but generally do not shop for them all at the same time. I think that while I would not discuss the money spent, I would discuss the blatant favoritism that Mom is showing the other children and how that hurts your DD.
I am not excusing your Mother's behavior, I do not condone it, but I wonder if she is overcompensating for your sister anad does not even realize how this is affecting the rest of the family. An honest conversation can at least make her aware of how her actions are percieved and give her the opportunity to eiother make changes or to tell you that she is not going to change. If you know you can adjust. If you stay silent you cannot change the behavior and you will continue to feel hurt. I must say that I am sorry to read this, I really hate when parents do not make sure that their family knows that financial assistance will never take the place of time and when theythen do not give the time to their family. It is really such a shame and such a loss.