lizandjason
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Dec 9, 2008
Hi, everyone...I've been wanting to reach out to others about this topic for awhile and I think the DISboards is probably the friendliest place to do it.
My mom and I have never been close. She never calls me, and when I call her, she rushes off the phone because she's 'so busy'. We fought a lot when I was a teenager but since I matured (I'm 32 now), I've consistently tried to get closer to her. Now when I'm around her (which I try to be a couple times a month), she is relatively pleasant but it's obvious that she's mostly disinterested in me. She is obsessed with her work as a nonprofit director and it seems that she is always more concerned about those in her charity than anything I'm involved in. She and my dad are very close, which is great, and she's close to my brother and sister. She just doesn't seem to have any interest in me.
I've tried to invite her to 'girls only' lunches or other events; I call her just to 'check in', enthusiastically support her nonprofit...but it doesn't seem to melt her at all. I'm wondering if she resents me because dad and I are close, or if I said/did something so heinous as a kid that she just emotionally wrote me off. Pictures of us when I was very young indicate more interest and warmth. I just don't know what might have happened. I've actually tried to ask her about it and she blows it off and says I'm imagining things.
So...just thought I'd put it all out there. I'm still trying and I'll never stop trying; I love my mom.
Comments and insight are welcome, thanks!
My mom and I have never been close. She never calls me, and when I call her, she rushes off the phone because she's 'so busy'. We fought a lot when I was a teenager but since I matured (I'm 32 now), I've consistently tried to get closer to her. Now when I'm around her (which I try to be a couple times a month), she is relatively pleasant but it's obvious that she's mostly disinterested in me. She is obsessed with her work as a nonprofit director and it seems that she is always more concerned about those in her charity than anything I'm involved in. She and my dad are very close, which is great, and she's close to my brother and sister. She just doesn't seem to have any interest in me.
I've tried to invite her to 'girls only' lunches or other events; I call her just to 'check in', enthusiastically support her nonprofit...but it doesn't seem to melt her at all. I'm wondering if she resents me because dad and I are close, or if I said/did something so heinous as a kid that she just emotionally wrote me off. Pictures of us when I was very young indicate more interest and warmth. I just don't know what might have happened. I've actually tried to ask her about it and she blows it off and says I'm imagining things.
So...just thought I'd put it all out there. I'm still trying and I'll never stop trying; I love my mom.
Comments and insight are welcome, thanks!