My daughter's Kindergarten teacher had the NERVE....!

[Hannathy]

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[disykat]

I'm STILL assuming the first post was a joke. It IS hard to let our kids go! I drop my oldest at college soon and I want to stay with him - for two reasons - not wanting to let him go and not wanting to miss the fun!

At some schools all the non-classroom staff stand at the entrance and separate out all the parents and help kids find their rooms. It makes the rest of the day/week go so much smoother if the kids say goodbye to their parent immediately the first day. I've done it both ways and it's so much easier if you can get all the kinks worked out the first day with drop-off and buses. Otherwise you find kids crying in the hall the next day/week because they are just now learning to do it independently. At that point, there AREN'T extra adults available to help them and it's scary!

 

[Debbie7452]

When I was on the PTA we had a Heartbreak Breakfast for the Mom's in the cafeteria after they dropped their little ones off at Kindergarten. Nothing like a bunch of women crying together over coffee and donuts. But, you do get to meet other moms who have their kiddos in the same class that way.

This is a nice idea. I saw the other parents at Meet the Teacher night and I was kind of scared off by the generational changes. I am 45 and most of the other Mom's are in late 20's...lots of tattoos and non-earring related piercings. At least no one asked me if I was DS's Grandma!

 

[becauseisaid]

Tuck and roll? I would just push them out without warning and hope they land on their feet.

What can I say? I'm a caring parent. Why I even slow the car down to 15MPH!

 

[LuvsDragonflies]

Did you know there's darned good reason why people don't parachute from helicopters?

 

[indimom]

I must be a bad parent. I didn't cry on my DD's first day of kindergarten (nor each subsequent year) at all. Why just the other day, I was ranting in the school drop off lane about people who take too long. Drop off is not that hard. You slow down, tell the kid to tuck and roll, and chuck their backpack after them! No need to linger!

 

[Family Fun Mom]

When I was on the PTA we had a Heartbreak Breakfast for the Mom's in the cafeteria after they dropped their little ones off at Kindergarten. Nothing like a bunch of women crying together over coffee and donuts. But, you do get to meet other moms who have their kiddos in the same class that way.

That's a really neat idea. I wish my kids' school had that when they were little. I'm going to suggest it to our PTO.

 

[princessmom29]

Sorry, but you are SUPPOSED to drop them off and leave. How is the teacher supposed to have class with 25 parents hanging around?

 

[MinnieLynnie]

Not sure if OP is joking around or not, but I know that my best friend dropped his son off this morning, and said he sobbed the whole way home. :-(

Must be so tough on a parent!

 

[Tara922c]

Our district wont even allow parents to walk the kids into school on the first day. I would think that it would be very distracting for the parents to hang around kindergarten all day. (our school doesn't allow it, you can schedule to volunteer, but you can't just stand in the back and watch)

 

[wtccheermom]

I really hope that was an attempt at sarcasm. If not then you have some serious issues if you feel as though you should have been allowed to stay.

 

[goofy4tink]

Waaaay back in the dark ages, when my dd first went off to preschool (I thought she was more than old enough to go at 3, but then looked back on photos and thought 'who would send such a baby off to preschool?), I did shed a few tears. We were never allowed into the school after saying our goodbyes. Bring them to the classroom, hand them off to the teacher and you're done. As time went on, you merely stopped the car, dd got out and ran up the walkway to the front door!!
Fast forward to kindergarten....as she got on that school bus, at the end of the driveway, I cried. I knew an era was over. So, really fast forward 13 years to last week. There I stood, with a bunch of other senior parents, cameras in hand, along the main street in town. Our seniors had a police escort through the center of town, down the main street, and into the school driveway to the upper parking lot. Their cars were all decked out, as were they. They all had on their senior tie-dye shirts on, with the most outrageous outfits you can imagine. Hanging out of the cars, hollering and hooting. And the parents, dads included, stood there, trying to stoically photograph it all. Well, there were a lot of tissues out.

So....next year, I will, yet again, cry as I drive away from my dd's college dorm. Life changes. But, that doesn't mean I can't cry when it does.

But, go along into the classroom with her? Ah yeah, not happening. Not my job as a parent. I have done plenty of volunteer stuff for her various school things...classroom mom, library volunteer and then long term sub, chaperone on trips, helping out at various school functions. Then, along comes high school...I'm at every football game, doing stuff for marching band. I am the color guard mom. I bake snacks for the band kids, I chaperone on the buses to away games. I work with the drama teacher in whatever way she needs me.
My issue???? What the heck am I going to do with my time when my dd goes to college next year?????

 

[DebIreland]

I think it's a natural feeling of a mother sending her baby to kinder. and wanting to stay. Teachers understand that it's hard for a few mothers every year. The truth is, sometimes it's harder on the moms than the kids.

Most kinder. teachers will tell you flat out that it's much easier for the teacher, child and the entire classrom if parents aren't 'hanging about' so they can get onto their regular schedule of the day. She wasn't trying to be mean. She was trying to put her class first as she was taught to do.

I am sure there will be times that you can sign up to go help with things, special event things, help with classroom reading/lessons. Those are great opportunities to spend time with your child at school. The worst time is really durring the first week or two when the kids NEED to get into the regular routine.

Most teachers believe that going all-in to a routine RIGHT AWAY is the best for every child in the classroom. Having a parent there (or two or three who are sad to leave) only adds to the already confused classroom.

I agree. It's VERY hard to leave our babies on their first day of school, heck I came home and cried for the entire first week or two. It's normal!

That's a nice post. Well said.

 

[DebIreland]

10 yrs ago I would have to BUT there are so many parents like this now, I believe everything I read like this anymore.

There is going to be quite the business selling "jaws of Life" to separate some of these Moms from their kids soon. It is out of hand.

There are so many DISers who have no sense of humor, it's shocking!!!!!!

 

[Kitty 34]

In less than 2 months my baby goes off for the Air Force. I've written a list of thing that I want to tell his drill sargeant, you know things he likes and dislikes; when he should take his meds, etc......................NOT!!!!!



Hey but I am going to cry my eyes out (already have a few times) when I put him on that plane!

Ya never get over being the Momma of the baby!

 

[becauseisaid]

In less than 2 months my baby goes off for the Air Force. I've written a list of thing that I want to tell his drill sargeant, you know things he likes and dislikes; when he should take his meds, etc

I have a friend who wrote a 3 page letter on the care and feeding of her daughter that she gave to the teacher when her child started Kindergarten.

 

[shortbun]

We had a pta 'crying room' for parents who could not leave the first week. Two weeks later, we were invited to volunteer for whole days. I took Wednesdays. It was a blast!

 

[Disney Doll]

Tuck and roll? I would just push them out without warning and hope they land on their feet.

Mom????? Is that you???????

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Mom????? Is that you???????

 

[jaminmd]

I have a friend who wrote a 3 page letter on the care and feeding of her daughter that she gave to the teacher when her child started Kindergarten.

I'm *sure* the teacher read the entire thing & followed it to the letter!

I bet they had fun with that in the teachers lounge.