This is an interesting conversation. And, I think that it changes drastically from which side you are speaking too. When my parents got divorced my dad paid $600 a month for three kids. It was a struggle for my mom. We definitely downgraded on living conditions and lifestyle. My dad chose to leave, and I don't think it should have been my mom who had to pay for his mistakes.
On the other hand, if my sister was on this board, she'd be writing forever on this subject. Her DH has to pay child support. I'm not sure exactly how much he pays, but it is close to $1000 a month. His ex left him. She had an affair. He fought for custody, and the judge was one of those that felt the kids are always better off with their mom. On top of CS, he has to split medical bills. It's nice and all, but his ex sure does take a lot of trips WITHOUT the kids.
I just think it's a really hard thing to discuss. Child support is supposed to be both parents splitting the costs. But you can't split your house payment in half, because if you didn't have that child you'd still have to have a house. You just need something bigger because you've got kids. Heat, still got to have it, and you heat the house, not the people. So, it's tough. I just hope I'm never in the situation where I need the child support. If so, I'd definitely have alimony along with it.
BTW, my dad paid child support until we were out of college. My mom had it set up that way.
On the other hand, if my sister was on this board, she'd be writing forever on this subject. Her DH has to pay child support. I'm not sure exactly how much he pays, but it is close to $1000 a month. His ex left him. She had an affair. He fought for custody, and the judge was one of those that felt the kids are always better off with their mom. On top of CS, he has to split medical bills. It's nice and all, but his ex sure does take a lot of trips WITHOUT the kids.
I just think it's a really hard thing to discuss. Child support is supposed to be both parents splitting the costs. But you can't split your house payment in half, because if you didn't have that child you'd still have to have a house. You just need something bigger because you've got kids. Heat, still got to have it, and you heat the house, not the people. So, it's tough. I just hope I'm never in the situation where I need the child support. If so, I'd definitely have alimony along with it.
BTW, my dad paid child support until we were out of college. My mom had it set up that way.