We are having to move an elderly resident into assisted living. This gentleman is my husband's uncle but he never married and has no children. My husband has power of attorney and has been helping him manage his health and other affairs. We live 3 hours away so this has not been easy and he would never agree to move close to us. He picked a very, very nice assisted living facility and agreed that this was needed.
We show up to help move him and he had done nothing to get ready. His memory and health had deteriorated so fast that it was shocking. He can't remember anything or anyone longer than five or ten minutes. We spent a long and tiring weekend packing and answering every ten minutes what day of the week it was and what we are going to do with his things. I know his things are very important to him but he is upset about not having his antiques with him. He also has several priceless items that gave been passed down through my husbands family for generations. He is worried about not having those with him but we don't think it is safe to leave those with him at the new facility. We have told him that we will take everything and store it for him. That works for about ten minutes then he starts worrying about them again. I feel so guilty, I don't know if we are right but it seems unwise to leave these valuable items with someone in his shape.
My husband called to check on him this morning and he was not happy and he kept asking about his old apartment. We could take him by but I think it would only upset him. There are boxes everywhere and it will not look like the museum quality place he remembers. Is there a right thing to do?
We show up to help move him and he had done nothing to get ready. His memory and health had deteriorated so fast that it was shocking. He can't remember anything or anyone longer than five or ten minutes. We spent a long and tiring weekend packing and answering every ten minutes what day of the week it was and what we are going to do with his things. I know his things are very important to him but he is upset about not having his antiques with him. He also has several priceless items that gave been passed down through my husbands family for generations. He is worried about not having those with him but we don't think it is safe to leave those with him at the new facility. We have told him that we will take everything and store it for him. That works for about ten minutes then he starts worrying about them again. I feel so guilty, I don't know if we are right but it seems unwise to leave these valuable items with someone in his shape.
My husband called to check on him this morning and he was not happy and he kept asking about his old apartment. We could take him by but I think it would only upset him. There are boxes everywhere and it will not look like the museum quality place he remembers. Is there a right thing to do?