Go easy. A mother having her first baby is looking for support from other moms who've had similar feelings when they were pregnant, and if you can't tell from the stories, a lot of women can relate. Trying to shame her for those feelings really isn't helpful.This will be blunt. But after two kids I can tell you this
Gender means #$&&&$@ over being healthy.. pray for a healthy child. Boy or girl won’t matter.
Jeez you want a girl and she is a Tom boy?. You going to not love her? Come on OP. For real?.
It took me 7 years to get pregnant with my first. I ended up getting pregnant again right after the first. All I wanted was healthy babies. I got two perfectly healthy boys. Not once did I care about the gender.This will be blunt. But after two kids I can tell you this
Gender means #$&&&$@ over being healthy.. pray for a healthy child. Boy or girl won’t matter.
Jeez you want a girl and she is a Tom boy?. You going to not love her? Come on OP. For real?.
I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.Go easy. A mother having her first baby is looking for support from other moms who've had similar feelings when they were pregnant, and if you can't tell from the stories, a lot of women can relate. Trying to shame her for those feelings really isn't helpful.
Yours is not the only experience - or opinion.It took me 7 years to get pregnant with my first. I ended up getting pregnant again right after the first. All I wanted was healthy babies. I got two perfectly healthy boys. Not once did I care about the gender.
I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.
It took me 7 years to get pregnant with my first. I ended up getting pregnant again right after the first. All I wanted was healthy babies. I got two perfectly healthy boys. Not once did I care about the gender.
I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.
Yes. And from most, if not all of the stories, it was an *initial* disappointment of an *idea*: a hope, a dream, a thought. I don't recall seeing anyone in this thread say that they continued to be disappointed for very long after the baby was born.My kids are all IVF. I lost two in between my firstborn and twins. Even though I couldn’t have cared less if I gave birth to a giraffe I can still understand gender disappointment.
Congratulations! And as for the joys of boys, well, I have loved raising my kid up to 21 and in college! I think that boys and their moms have a very special bond, just like girls and their dads do. My son and I are very close, not "momma's boy" close lol, but we spend as much together time doing our common interest things, as he does with his dad. The one thing that does sort of tug at my heart is knowing that when he gets married, I won't get to do all the bride related stuff, like a mom with a daughter, but I've told him that I will be the very best mother inlaw on earth, so maybe his future bride will allow me to go when she tries on wedding dresses if I promise to sit quietly and only say how gorgeous she looks in everything she tries on
Really did I say it was. I'm not sure your point. Pretty much every post on this board is an opinion. I gave mine.... never said anybody had to agree with it.Yours is not the only experience - or opinion.
Really did I say it was. I'm not sure your point. Pretty much every post on this board is an opinion. I gave mine.... never said anybody had to agree with it.
Keep in mind there is a real person (OP) behind the keyboard who asked for HELP.I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.
I think the majority of parents have a preference, in addition to wanting a healthy child. I know plenty of women with three or four of the same sex, who admit to have wanted a different gender. That doesn’t mean they live with disappointment, let’s face it, once that baby is born you wouldn’t want any other.It took me 7 years to get pregnant with my first. I ended up getting pregnant again right after the first. All I wanted was healthy babies. I got two perfectly healthy boys. Not once did I care about the gender.
I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.
This will be blunt. But after two kids I can tell you this
Gender means #$&&&$@ over being healthy.. pray for a healthy child. Boy or girl won’t matter.
Jeez you want a girl and she is a Tom boy?. You going to not love her? Come on OP. For real?.
I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.
This will be blunt. But after two kids I can tell you this
Gender means #$&&&$@ over being healthy.. pray for a healthy child. Boy or girl won’t matter.
Jeez you want a girl and she is a Tom boy?. You going to not love her? Come on OP. For real?.
It took me 7 years to get pregnant with my first. I ended up getting pregnant again right after the first. All I wanted was healthy babies. I got two perfectly healthy boys. Not once did I care about the gender.
I'm sorry, but if your going to be disappointed in the sex of your child don't have kids. I've never met anybody that didn't wish for anything, but a healthy child. Sorry can't relate at all.