You should try to look for hotels in the Southaven and Horn Lake Mississippi area which is just south of Memphis. There is a newly built up area on Goodman Road that you could try. I used to live in this area and it is safe and has everything you would need while traveling. I think that there is a Drury Inn right at I-55 and Goodman Road. Drury Inns usually have a nice pool, evening snacks and beverages and a hot breakfast. You also get an hour of free long distance phone calls too, which usually comes in handy while traveling. I am sorry to hear of your situation and wish you a safe trip!
Hi! I live in the area and just wanted to say the Goodman Road area in Southaven, MS is the perfect place for you as the above poster said. Nicer areas of Memphis are out of your way if you're going to LA. Whatever you do, don't say "Oooh, cool, Elvis!" and stop anywhere around there (that would be included in the South Memphis part the other poster noted!)! Keep on truckin' on 55 into Mississippi!! I'm sorry for your loss and hope you have a safe trip!
I was just in Memphis on vacation for 4 days. We stayed downtown for 2 nights, at the Heartbreak Hotel for a night, and at a Hampton Inn on Poplar Avenue. The only neighborhood I didn't feel safe in was near Graceland. Downtown was very empty, and there were a lot of homeless people/beggars around, but I'm used to that coming from the NYC area. I actually felt much safer in Memphis than I did in Washington DC or Philadelphia - except when I went south of downtown near Graceland.
If you happen to be coming into town on I-40 from the east, you will actually hit many decent areas along the way - the first being the HW64/Wolfchase Mall exit followed by the Germantown Road exit a moment later. There is a Marriott Springhill Suites by the mall that is nice - I just stayed there when we moved a few months ago. The mall is nice and has a carousel and plenty of restaurants around as well!