It never ceases to amaze me how cruel kids can be. DD13 first 2 weeks of camp this year was great!! Then a girl who went to the camp last summer for part of it, and who DD has known all her life showed up. She asked if she could hang with DD and her small group of freinds. DD of course being nice said yes. First this girl told DD that she should wear shorter shorts (DD wears normal size shorts, I don't buy her things where her butt is hanging out), more tank tops and she should wear bikinis! She also told her she should straighten her hair. Now my DD is a beautiful young women, nicely proportioned with gorgeous long wavy hair. She dresses very appropriately for a 13 year old girl. In style, but not slutty or too grow up. Now this other girl is pretty, but chubby. She is also one of the rudest children I know. I am always shocked at the way she talks to her parents, and how they let her get away with it. DD came home yesterday complaining about her and she said some really nasty things to DD. She told DD that kids won't be her freind at school once they find out DD is her cousin !! Yes, this mean girl is my DN. Now, DD has a very small circle of good freinds. DD is not the jappy, makeup, designer type of kid. She loves wearing mix match socks, and she does what she wants, even if the other kids want to do something else. She is very independent and bright. Now, the only clue I have about DN freinds is that her sister told me at DN Bat Mitzvah that her sister has no freinds, and no one likes her, and she isn't sure why the handful of girls that showed up to her party came . Now anytime I have discussed her behavior with my brother, he says my daughter is a nasty mean witch! There is no talking to my sil, since she thinks her children walk on water and can do no wrong. Anytime I have said, well DN did this, she was in total denial.... We had a family party for my DS a few weeks ago, and DN started in on DD, so DD just ignored her, and DN went crying to her mother. Her mother went SCREAMING at my DD. DD just turned away from her and swam away. Sil told her she was rude yada yada yada. I also walked away from SIL, since I didn't want to make a scene at my son's party. But my sil was outta line, but that is what she ususally does. Thankfully school isn't too bad, since I have always requested they never be in teh same classes. Hopefully 8th grade will be the same!! Camp I can't control. DN has been to like every camp in the area, Sil changes them every few summers...I have no idea why. DD has been in the same place for 8 summers. And there is only one group of their age category, so nothting I can do there. DD is usually good and walks away, but I feel so bad for her summer being ruined! Next year she is debating between working/camp and teen travel program. With the working/camp session she will not have to worry if DN is there, since DN doesn't go all 8 weeks she would never get into that program. But I want DD to be in the program she wants to be. Sigh...thanks for letting me vent. It is very frustrating seeing your child unhappy, especially knowing that it is a family memeber doing it, and nothing that can be done. I knew it was gonna be trouble when they moved to my town 8 years ago!