Mickey's Minion
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 5, 2009
I agree with the OP. Would love to see a little hand holding and Kumbaya singing around here!
Here ya go
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vo9AH4vG2wA
I agree with the OP. Would love to see a little hand holding and Kumbaya singing around here!
That's how I feel.It's a discussion board. People may have differing opinions and wish to express them. If everyone just agreed all the time it wouldn't really be a discussion would it.
Plus you have to remember tone doesn't come across in written word. If someone is already defensive about something than it's very easy to misinterpret a post as being mean and argumentative even if that's not the way it was intended.
I lurk a lot on the Dis, but do not have many here although I have been a member about 3 years and lurked for a couple of years before signing up.
Now, the reason I don't post too often is that the general tone seems to have gotten harsh over the last couple of years. This is supposed to be a friendly place and yet, often people seem to be unnecessarily flamed.
Only yesterday someone came on and posted about a tragedy and caught a lot of flak about her choice to post and whether or not the sad event actually happened.
Other times members come here asking for opinions or help and are told they are rude, selfish, etc. I would think if you disagreed with a poster, it is possible to state that and explain why without the hurtful comments. There certainly are better ways to state an opinion without being harsh. It is also possible to let them know their approach was wrong and suggest a better way.
Based on what I've been reading here, I truly expect to be flamed for my comments, but keep hoping that the Dis will someday return to the nice, reliable, helpful and supportive place it once was.
I lurk a lot on the Dis, but do not have many here although I have been a member about 3 years and lurked for a couple of years before signing up.
Now, the reason I don't post too often is that the general tone seems to have gotten harsh over the last couple of years. This is supposed to be a friendly place and yet, often people seem to be unnecessarily flamed.
Only yesterday someone came on and posted about a tragedy and caught a lot of flak about her choice to post and whether or not the sad event actually happened.
Other times members come here asking for opinions or help and are told they are rude, selfish, etc. I would think if you disagreed with a poster, it is possible to state that and explain why without the hurtful comments. There certainly are better ways to state an opinion without being harsh. It is also possible to let them know their approach was wrong and suggest a better way.
Based on what I've been reading here, I truly expect to be flamed for my comments, but keep hoping that the Dis will someday return to the nice, reliable, helpful and supportive place it once was.
It's the anonymity. People feel like they can say anything because there are no "faces" on the people they insult under the guise of "I'm only trying to help him/her".
I agree with the OP. Would love to see a little hand holding and Kumbaya singing around here!
Honestly, if you can't take the heat, you shouldn't post. Everyone on here has an opinion, and 50% of the time you won't agree with it.
Of course everyone has their own opinion, and the right to speak it. But when they're rude and nasty about it, that's a bit much. Like being told you're "ignorant" for simply having a different opinion about something than someone else. I don't think so. There can be a difference of opinion, but expressing it politely goes a much longer way than the opposite.
Of course everyone has their own opinion, and the right to speak it. But when they're rude and nasty about it, that's a bit much. Like being told you're "ignorant" for simply having a different opinion about something than someone else. I don't think so. There can be a difference of opinion, but expressing it politely goes a much longer way than the opposite.
Of course everyone has their own opinion, and the right to speak it. But when they're rude and nasty about it, that's a bit much. Like being told you're "ignorant" for simply having a different opinion about something than someone else. I don't think so. There can be a difference of opinion, but expressing it politely goes a much longer way than the opposite.
I stopped "giving my power away" to people online a couple years ago.
To paraphrase Eleanor Roosevelt, no one can make you feel bad without your consent.
I am the one that decides how I'm going to feel, not people on a message board.
Honestly, if you can't take the heat, you shouldn't post. Everyone on here has an opinion, and 50% of the time you won't agree with it.