skylynx
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- Mar 1, 2003
So just when you think you've got that Disney Cruise thing all figured out...you find out your cruise with DH and 3 young adults has become us, 3 young adults, and a baby.
Booked a 4-night Bahamian graduation cruise on the Dream for DS18 in June. Since my stepdaughter (23) in the UK missed several cruises that we took aforementioned DS and DD21 on over the last 6 years, we decided to fly her over from London for the cruise and get the kids their own stateroom. We were able to get them the obstructed view porthole room at the very front of the Dream thats a weird shape but a good value. Booked RonJons in Cocoa Beach for the night before the cruise and the Treehouses at Saratoga Springs for 3 nights after so we can do WDW post-cruise. Boy, is this going to be fun.
Now, I am the family travel witch, so planning adventures and getting reservations right is very important to me. I felt we had great pre- and post-cruise plans that would let the kids have their own space, provide an appreciable buffer zone between our two staterooms, and enable the first trip to Palo for the graduate. I was feeling smug.
Then, we find out on Facebook, that DSD has exciting news. We think a wedding! Huzzah! We didnt even think she was getting along with the boyfriend! Turns out exciting news is that DSD is pregnant and due in December. She does not want this to mean she cannot go on the trip. The baby will be 5 months old by the time of the cruise, so no problem there. DSD broke up with the father of baby a couple months ago. He is diagnosed bi-polar but refuses treatment, and does interesting things like show up at the ultrasound appointment and f-bomb DSD in the waiting room. For a litany of reasons I wont go into, no one at the moment is encouraging them to try and reconcile.
Although we shudder at the full gravity of what it is going to be like for her to be a 23 year old single mother still living at home with a job but not a career, we want to be as positive and supportive as possible and warmly welcome the new member of our family. OK, so enough background detail.
Immediately after digesting the news (and a cocktail) I call DCL to ask about noting the additional person on the reservation. I think this will be no big deal. Turns out it is a very big deal. The room the kids were originally booked in only holds 3 people, so they can no longer stay there. I look at the next least expensive available option on that cruise, and it is an inside stateroom about the size of a walk-in closet with no split bathroom. I could not even picture where a Pack and Play could fit into this room with the 4 of them that left any floor space at all. It cost an extra $500 or so to add the baby to the reservation, and the upgrade to a Deck 2 porthole room was another $600. I converted the Ron Jon reservation to a two bedroom suite. More $$ We will have to rent a minivan instead of a full size car to get around to/from airport/port/WDW to fit all the people/luggage/car seat. More $$. I am trying not to be curmudgeonly about all the additional costs this poor innocent baby is racking up. But wait, it gets better. DSD is understandably ambivalent about her ability to travel alone that distance with an infant, so wants her dad to fly over and escort her across the pond and back. Thats 3 grand in addition to what her ticket is going to cost. No. No. No.
Suddenly, all the things I blissfully didnt have to worry about on Disney Cruises like car seats and pack and plays and Flounders Reef (or whatever the equivalent is on Dream) and dirty diapers are something we have to plan for. I feel bad my DS and DD are going to have to share such close quarters with smelly diapers and the possibility of regularly interrupted sleep. We may end up having them back in our stateroom, which isnt the end of the world but one of the reasons we booked separate staterooms is that the kids are night owls and DH and I are zonked out by 11pm. Oh well. Thats what family members do for each other. I dont want my DSD to feel like a pariah, but also dont want the other kids to have this first adult vacation together turn into a live-in nursery nightmare.
So I find myself being the one to ask really lame questions.
1. How bad is it having dirty diapers in your stateroom? Can you ask the steward if theres a way to get the garbage pail emptied more frequently or do it yourself? I dont want to add to the stewards workload unreasonably.
2. Im thinking we better get trip insurance for this epic journey, but I am absolutely paranoid whatever reason we might be denied boarding would end up being an insurance policy exclusion. I know DCLs insurance is more expensive, but are you any more likely to NOT have your claim declined going through them?
3. Those of you that have left your infants with Disneys paid child-care did you feel entirely comfortable? Would still really like to take all the kids to Palo (and dont want to leave the babys mum behind). DH and I also plan to babysit at least one evening so DD and DSD can go to the clubs, but would like to know if the Disney baby care is as good as their care of the older children.
I know someone is going to suggest we just cancel the cruise and use the money to just do a longer stay at WDW. I just cant bring myself to disappoint any of the kids as this is probably the last time for a long time we are going to cruise as a family (at least with us footing the bill). And its the first time DSD will have EVER been on a cruise. Weve been looking forward to this graduation celebration trip since DDs graduation trip 3 years ago (that was the last time the kids cruised with us.)
In spite of all the moaning about the expense and the additional hassle, there are things Im looking forward to, like family photos with the characters, helping DSD enjoy as much of the cruise as she can by taking the baby, dressing the baby in Disney baby clothes (our baby is a girl!), and watching DH operate as a grandfather (and me, too, as a step-grandmother!)
Well, thanks for letting me vent. Any advice or answers to my whiny questions about diapers are most welcome. It's been a long time since I had to deal with that!
Booked a 4-night Bahamian graduation cruise on the Dream for DS18 in June. Since my stepdaughter (23) in the UK missed several cruises that we took aforementioned DS and DD21 on over the last 6 years, we decided to fly her over from London for the cruise and get the kids their own stateroom. We were able to get them the obstructed view porthole room at the very front of the Dream thats a weird shape but a good value. Booked RonJons in Cocoa Beach for the night before the cruise and the Treehouses at Saratoga Springs for 3 nights after so we can do WDW post-cruise. Boy, is this going to be fun.
Now, I am the family travel witch, so planning adventures and getting reservations right is very important to me. I felt we had great pre- and post-cruise plans that would let the kids have their own space, provide an appreciable buffer zone between our two staterooms, and enable the first trip to Palo for the graduate. I was feeling smug.
Then, we find out on Facebook, that DSD has exciting news. We think a wedding! Huzzah! We didnt even think she was getting along with the boyfriend! Turns out exciting news is that DSD is pregnant and due in December. She does not want this to mean she cannot go on the trip. The baby will be 5 months old by the time of the cruise, so no problem there. DSD broke up with the father of baby a couple months ago. He is diagnosed bi-polar but refuses treatment, and does interesting things like show up at the ultrasound appointment and f-bomb DSD in the waiting room. For a litany of reasons I wont go into, no one at the moment is encouraging them to try and reconcile.
Although we shudder at the full gravity of what it is going to be like for her to be a 23 year old single mother still living at home with a job but not a career, we want to be as positive and supportive as possible and warmly welcome the new member of our family. OK, so enough background detail.
Immediately after digesting the news (and a cocktail) I call DCL to ask about noting the additional person on the reservation. I think this will be no big deal. Turns out it is a very big deal. The room the kids were originally booked in only holds 3 people, so they can no longer stay there. I look at the next least expensive available option on that cruise, and it is an inside stateroom about the size of a walk-in closet with no split bathroom. I could not even picture where a Pack and Play could fit into this room with the 4 of them that left any floor space at all. It cost an extra $500 or so to add the baby to the reservation, and the upgrade to a Deck 2 porthole room was another $600. I converted the Ron Jon reservation to a two bedroom suite. More $$ We will have to rent a minivan instead of a full size car to get around to/from airport/port/WDW to fit all the people/luggage/car seat. More $$. I am trying not to be curmudgeonly about all the additional costs this poor innocent baby is racking up. But wait, it gets better. DSD is understandably ambivalent about her ability to travel alone that distance with an infant, so wants her dad to fly over and escort her across the pond and back. Thats 3 grand in addition to what her ticket is going to cost. No. No. No.
Suddenly, all the things I blissfully didnt have to worry about on Disney Cruises like car seats and pack and plays and Flounders Reef (or whatever the equivalent is on Dream) and dirty diapers are something we have to plan for. I feel bad my DS and DD are going to have to share such close quarters with smelly diapers and the possibility of regularly interrupted sleep. We may end up having them back in our stateroom, which isnt the end of the world but one of the reasons we booked separate staterooms is that the kids are night owls and DH and I are zonked out by 11pm. Oh well. Thats what family members do for each other. I dont want my DSD to feel like a pariah, but also dont want the other kids to have this first adult vacation together turn into a live-in nursery nightmare.
So I find myself being the one to ask really lame questions.
1. How bad is it having dirty diapers in your stateroom? Can you ask the steward if theres a way to get the garbage pail emptied more frequently or do it yourself? I dont want to add to the stewards workload unreasonably.
2. Im thinking we better get trip insurance for this epic journey, but I am absolutely paranoid whatever reason we might be denied boarding would end up being an insurance policy exclusion. I know DCLs insurance is more expensive, but are you any more likely to NOT have your claim declined going through them?
3. Those of you that have left your infants with Disneys paid child-care did you feel entirely comfortable? Would still really like to take all the kids to Palo (and dont want to leave the babys mum behind). DH and I also plan to babysit at least one evening so DD and DSD can go to the clubs, but would like to know if the Disney baby care is as good as their care of the older children.
I know someone is going to suggest we just cancel the cruise and use the money to just do a longer stay at WDW. I just cant bring myself to disappoint any of the kids as this is probably the last time for a long time we are going to cruise as a family (at least with us footing the bill). And its the first time DSD will have EVER been on a cruise. Weve been looking forward to this graduation celebration trip since DDs graduation trip 3 years ago (that was the last time the kids cruised with us.)
In spite of all the moaning about the expense and the additional hassle, there are things Im looking forward to, like family photos with the characters, helping DSD enjoy as much of the cruise as she can by taking the baby, dressing the baby in Disney baby clothes (our baby is a girl!), and watching DH operate as a grandfather (and me, too, as a step-grandmother!)
Well, thanks for letting me vent. Any advice or answers to my whiny questions about diapers are most welcome. It's been a long time since I had to deal with that!