A little background:
My DH and I are financially responsible people. It hasn't always been this way, especially for me. We paid for wedding, but started our marriage with debt, again, mostly from me.
The early years were a bit of a monetary struggle and stressful (my husband is pretty debt-adverse). We managed to claw our way out of debt and finally buy a cozy (read: small) starter home.
Now, 14 years later, we are in a better financial position. We recently sold our first home and bought a larger one. We are not wealthy by any means, but we budget and maintain a savings account, which we are trying to beef up in anticipation of buying a new roof next year.
We could probably be better with our budget and save a bit more, but we do OK.
Our current situation: We currently have two loans out to family members (one on DH's side, one on my side). This is not the first time we have loaned money to these particular family members.
I feel like we save and budget so we have money, which we then loan out to others who don't save and budget.
It is more stressful to my DH, but it is a bit stressful to me, also. I think my stress is ultimately due to it being about money. I have money, they don't have money. Aren't family members more important than money?
I know you shouldn't loan money out that you can't afford to lose, and if we never got paid back, we would be OK but it would certainly cause a rift in the family. These family members have paid back previous loans, but when they are late with their loan payments, we have to ask. We hate that feeling.
Do you loan money to relatives? And if you don't, how did you handle refusing loan requests? Did it damage relationships?
My DH and I are financially responsible people. It hasn't always been this way, especially for me. We paid for wedding, but started our marriage with debt, again, mostly from me.
The early years were a bit of a monetary struggle and stressful (my husband is pretty debt-adverse). We managed to claw our way out of debt and finally buy a cozy (read: small) starter home.
Now, 14 years later, we are in a better financial position. We recently sold our first home and bought a larger one. We are not wealthy by any means, but we budget and maintain a savings account, which we are trying to beef up in anticipation of buying a new roof next year.
We could probably be better with our budget and save a bit more, but we do OK.
Our current situation: We currently have two loans out to family members (one on DH's side, one on my side). This is not the first time we have loaned money to these particular family members.
I feel like we save and budget so we have money, which we then loan out to others who don't save and budget.
It is more stressful to my DH, but it is a bit stressful to me, also. I think my stress is ultimately due to it being about money. I have money, they don't have money. Aren't family members more important than money?
I know you shouldn't loan money out that you can't afford to lose, and if we never got paid back, we would be OK but it would certainly cause a rift in the family. These family members have paid back previous loans, but when they are late with their loan payments, we have to ask. We hate that feeling.
Do you loan money to relatives? And if you don't, how did you handle refusing loan requests? Did it damage relationships?