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DIS Veteran
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- Apr 29, 2001
Have you thought about pushing her on why she doesn't want to go to independent/assisted living? She may not realize that it isn't a bad place to be - often it's a good place for people with the socialization and care. Could her perception be far from reality?
When we moved my dad to independent living, he didn't care too much for it, but recognized there was nothing wrong with it. But when he was moved to assisted living, he really blossomed. He got so much good socialization with the other 'inmates' (he called them that, but with a chuckle), and the aides and the nurses. My boss recently had to move her fil to an independent living facility because his home was unsafe. He objected, but thrived there until Covid.
If she has the means, and I think you said that she did but I could be wrong, she may actually enjoy it - and it can be better than living with family. I'm sure it depends on quality, but pretty much everyone I know that has moved a parent into a continuing care type of facility has ended up liking it. As for affordability, we easily managed with my dad's Social Security, small pension, and proceeds from selling his house.
I think it's worth asking her what she thinks independent/assisted living will be like, and having her visit somewhere to let her know that the reality is likely not like what she is thinking. Its definitely worth your husband's and your time to check out a few then see if you can get her to visit one. I have a friend who is just turning 65, with not too robust a retirement account, and is moving to independent living just because of all the amenities!
When we moved my dad to independent living, he didn't care too much for it, but recognized there was nothing wrong with it. But when he was moved to assisted living, he really blossomed. He got so much good socialization with the other 'inmates' (he called them that, but with a chuckle), and the aides and the nurses. My boss recently had to move her fil to an independent living facility because his home was unsafe. He objected, but thrived there until Covid.
If she has the means, and I think you said that she did but I could be wrong, she may actually enjoy it - and it can be better than living with family. I'm sure it depends on quality, but pretty much everyone I know that has moved a parent into a continuing care type of facility has ended up liking it. As for affordability, we easily managed with my dad's Social Security, small pension, and proceeds from selling his house.
I think it's worth asking her what she thinks independent/assisted living will be like, and having her visit somewhere to let her know that the reality is likely not like what she is thinking. Its definitely worth your husband's and your time to check out a few then see if you can get her to visit one. I have a friend who is just turning 65, with not too robust a retirement account, and is moving to independent living just because of all the amenities!