CaliforniaDreamin
<font color=deeppink>DIS Veteran (and then some)<b
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- Jul 2, 2006
PT2
I am next going to call adult services if there is one nearby. We live in a tiny town so I may have to do some digging to find out who handles this..thank goodness for cell phones, no long distance charges.
We haven't even considered getting power of attorney. I will certainly suggest it. He is in his right mind and is still very sharp. He just gets confused easily and of course, right now is in no position to make financial decisions. He is not the only one in the family who doesn't want the house sold. None of his kids want to see it sold either. Personally, I would because my FIL has no will. He WANTS the government to get it because he is afraid that all the kids will end up fighting over who will get how much and there have been several indications over the years that this is a liklihood. My DH wants nothing. He has been disgusted by some of the comments about the way his brothers and sisters have faught with each other over the land and house when their parents died. He told me that he is going to tell them all he wants nothing. MY dad heard this and told him that he knew it would be nasty but for Rodney not to throw his hands up and not fight for a share. We will cross that bridge when we come to it.
My nephew (who is actually older than me, lol) is the branch manager of a local NC State Employee credit union. It was his dad that died last month. I will ask him about a reverse mortgage. I'm sure he will have some info on that.
Their church was actually one he co founded decades ago. But it's just a small country church. I don't think they can help us, but I will ask the preacher. (He has a FT job outside of the church and lives in his own house. This is just to give you guys an idea of how small a church it is. I'm guessing he gets some salary from the church, but it can't be much and there is no parsonage).
Thank you dnsymom about the info about a quit claim. I didnt even know that was something that was done, but it makes a lot of sense. Unfortunately, with this family, it was probably for the best it had never been done. He absolutely refuses to sell the house and none of us can afford it or pool in together to help him financially. I cant see him ever agreeing to a nursing home. He would probably die the first day in. Thats how he is./
I'll also call Medicaid today and see what can be done. Since I am not PofA or a legal guardian or even a blood relative, I may not be able to do anything specifically for him. But I'm sure they can provide me with general info and what needs to be done. I just dread this because I'm sure there will be a struggle with in as to who could and should be Power of Attorney. These people cannot get along. Its a shame. I love them all, but I don't like some of what I have seen over the years.
Thank you to the poster who brought up someone asking him for money or his social or things like that. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't do that, but it is something I will make sure that he is told TODAY to give out no info to anyone outside the family. If someone tells them they need his social, he can direct them to one of us and we can check out the legitimacy. Thank you so much, I never would have thought of that.
I am next going to call adult services if there is one nearby. We live in a tiny town so I may have to do some digging to find out who handles this..thank goodness for cell phones, no long distance charges.
We haven't even considered getting power of attorney. I will certainly suggest it. He is in his right mind and is still very sharp. He just gets confused easily and of course, right now is in no position to make financial decisions. He is not the only one in the family who doesn't want the house sold. None of his kids want to see it sold either. Personally, I would because my FIL has no will. He WANTS the government to get it because he is afraid that all the kids will end up fighting over who will get how much and there have been several indications over the years that this is a liklihood. My DH wants nothing. He has been disgusted by some of the comments about the way his brothers and sisters have faught with each other over the land and house when their parents died. He told me that he is going to tell them all he wants nothing. MY dad heard this and told him that he knew it would be nasty but for Rodney not to throw his hands up and not fight for a share. We will cross that bridge when we come to it.
My nephew (who is actually older than me, lol) is the branch manager of a local NC State Employee credit union. It was his dad that died last month. I will ask him about a reverse mortgage. I'm sure he will have some info on that.
Their church was actually one he co founded decades ago. But it's just a small country church. I don't think they can help us, but I will ask the preacher. (He has a FT job outside of the church and lives in his own house. This is just to give you guys an idea of how small a church it is. I'm guessing he gets some salary from the church, but it can't be much and there is no parsonage).
Thank you dnsymom about the info about a quit claim. I didnt even know that was something that was done, but it makes a lot of sense. Unfortunately, with this family, it was probably for the best it had never been done. He absolutely refuses to sell the house and none of us can afford it or pool in together to help him financially. I cant see him ever agreeing to a nursing home. He would probably die the first day in. Thats how he is./
I'll also call Medicaid today and see what can be done. Since I am not PofA or a legal guardian or even a blood relative, I may not be able to do anything specifically for him. But I'm sure they can provide me with general info and what needs to be done. I just dread this because I'm sure there will be a struggle with in as to who could and should be Power of Attorney. These people cannot get along. Its a shame. I love them all, but I don't like some of what I have seen over the years.
Thank you to the poster who brought up someone asking him for money or his social or things like that. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't do that, but it is something I will make sure that he is told TODAY to give out no info to anyone outside the family. If someone tells them they need his social, he can direct them to one of us and we can check out the legitimacy. Thank you so much, I never would have thought of that.