My middle son (DS6) has officially been diagnosed with Asperger's. It has been a long road to get to this point. I noticed his differences around age 1. He never hit his milestones on time, always had super meltdowns, late talker, etc. At 3, he was becoming increasingly violent with his "fits" which sometimes resulted in my then 5 y/o son getting scratched, hit, etc. So I took him to our school district's Early Intervention program. I was told they would help evaluate him, get him into the right school program, and then point me to the right doctor to send him to, in necessary. (He pediatrician at that time was no help at all). They evaluated him and reported that despite being "a little slow" (testing at an 18 month old level at 3.5 years) and the violent fits, there were "no exceptionalities." His new ped then suggested I take him to another ped that specialized in behavior. She evaluated him, and diagnosed him with: Severe Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Selective Mutism, OCD, and (very reluctantly) PDD-NOS. I say reluctantly because, she believed that once he started school he would "catch up" and be fine, but giving him the PDD-NOS label would open more doors for him in school. So fast forward to this year, and after 2 years of school... I decided to have him re-evaluated by a clinical psychologist(I now realize that this is where we should have started 3 years ago!). She evaluated him in her office, and had legnthy talks with a former teacher of his. Her diagnosis was that he CLEARLY has Asperger's. He is also a slow learner (tested low average to borderline intelligence). She also told me that she doesn't understand how anyone trained to be around Special Education had any doubts that he has Asperger's. (We had trouble with his Kindergarten SPED teacher this pas year...she kept telling me that he was fine, pulling one over on us, and that she thought that absolutely nothing was wrong with him...) Sorry, I know that was really long. So now what? I know that we will be sending him to his current school this year because they have an Autism class, and he was set to do that anyway. The Dr told me to contact our local ABA specialist, so we are going to do that. What books can I read? How do I simply explain Asperger's to my friends and family? I have family that don't believe that Asperger's is even a real disorder. I guess I am just looking for other parents going through this. I am feeling a bit overwhelmed at the moment.