Is it rude to ask people to remove their.....

[DizzieDizney]

shoes before they enter your home? And is it rude if those people include your in-laws or relatives? Furthermore is it rude if one of your in-laws is paralized on one side of the body. I mean he can walk and everything. He even drives. Just limps when he walks. I just hate when people wear shoes indoors. Especially in my home where I like to go barefoot.

 

[FreshTressa]

We never wear shoes in our house and most guests get the hint when there are shoes neatly set by the door.

I would never feel comfortable asking someone to take their shoes off. Some people just don't feel right without them. Or what if they aren't wearing socks??

I think, if they get the hint, great, if not, then whatever makes my guest the most comfortable. A few shoes going through my house isn't going to ruin anything.

I do ask that kids do though.

 

[Lynn CC]

It's nice to have some slippers there for them to wear if your going to ask them to remove their shoes.
Everyone walks in my house looks at the floors and automatically takes off their shoes. I always say it's not necessary, but they usaully do we like to walk barefoot too, nothing worse than a dirty floor.
My son's freinds always took theirs off at the door too, if you have a shoe mat there, then that's another suttle hint!

 

[AZKathy]

We have a rule in our home with no shoes on the carpet. All the kids who come and play automatically take off their shoes when they come in the house (you should see the pile of shoes sometimes in the foyer!!!), but I would never ask adult visitors who come in our home to remove their shoes. I feel very uncomfortable doing that. <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_13_15.gif' border=0></a>

 

[mudnuri]

In my house,,,

Kids YES..Family and close friends YES.

but not parents of kids who are being picked up etc.. they will walk into my kitchen through the living room, but thats okay. If I was having a party- like a Creative Memories or something then no, because not all of them are close friends.

We have a big boot mat next to our entry way right now...everyone's boots are lined up on it. DD's put their slippers there when they take their boots to put on.

In April/May...NOBODY and I MEAN NOBODY walks through my house with shoes on...mud season in Vermont is just way to much around here, and I'm not mopping my hardwood or vacuming my carpet 2x a day...If kids have a friend over, I bring the kid home, and I dont invite others over except for those that I know take their shoes off...just about EVERYONE around here takes off shoes upon entering though, so it's kind of the norm.


Brandy

 

[WDWAurora]

I would probably be a little insulted if asked to do that...I always wipe my feet, then check my shoes before entering anywhere (my home, the homes of others...anywhere) and willingly remove them if they're at all dirty. I think most adults can be expected to do that without instruction. I hate taking shoes on and off though, and to be asked to do that is just annoying to me. (I hate shoes in general, but wearing them outside is a requirement, if it wasn't, I'd be barefoot too.) Kids...well that's a little tough too, because if they're with their parents...Using me as an example (don't have kids, but whatever) it would sound like, "Courtney, could you get little Billy to take his shoes off?" or just to ask him in front of me...seems like it would be a little awkward. With a big group of kids there...that seems simple, easy, and understandable. Otherwise, I'd probably say it's not the best idea, but it is your house.

 

[CamColt]

We always enter our house through the garage, into the laundry/mud room and remove our shoes there(Im a little psycho about that). But we always have guests come through the front door. Personally I would love for them to remove their shoes, but I feel rude asking that so I wouldnt. Sometimes if its really bad out, people will take them off, but in general, we dont ask.

 

[helenabear]

I have been asked before many times and no, I do not think it is rude to be asked. It is what some wish and if that is what they wish I will do it. I prefer to go w/o shoes anyway

 

[TIGGERSMOM]

Rude - I don't know if it is rude but I would never ask my guests to remove any article of clothing to enter my house.

I am a barefoot type person so it wouldn't really bother me to be asked, but beware I also don't wear socks so you take your chances. I even warn the TSA people at the airport, you want my shoes........LOL!

On the other hand I have a cousin that if asked her to remove her shoes you would never see her again. She has a huge foot phobia, stemming from a childhood trauma that involved tickling. I know sounds funny but you never know what pecadillos people may have.

So rude, no if you warn ahead of time, if you surprise folk at the door, I would say inconsiderate, maybe

 

[DizzieDizney]

LOL...I understand how you guys feel.....I feel uncomfortable too...that's why I ask.....I never ask anyone to take off their shoes before entering but the whole time they are walking around the house I'm just dreading the fact that I'm going to have to clean the floors as soon as they leave and i find myself hoping they are not tracking anything gross into the house. My 3yr old plays on the floor and almost always throws his blanket on the floor and it kind of creeps me out that the floor may not be clean....but dh and the boys know as soon as they enter the house shoes come off but whenever anyone else comes in they are allowed to wear shoes in the house...I guess I have a disorder LOL ..yep I'm weird if you can't tell by now

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Luckily, around here most people are allowed to wear shoes inside. When I was younger I always went barefoot. Now I rarely do. I am just not comfortable without shoes. I can understand asking people to take off muddy shoes but just not shoes in general.

I do home health care and go do about 5 different homes a day. I am on my feet in my job and walking with my patients. When I went to a home that asked me to remove my shoes I refused. I just would not feel comfortable working in stocking feet.

I think in also sends a message to someone unfortable in stocking feet that a carpet is more important than their comfort.

 

[CEDmom]

I did this for a while when DD was a young toddler and we had just gotten new laminate flooring. I worried about exessive germs since she would pick things up off the floor and put them into her mouth and also about anything on someone's shoes scratching the floors. I let people know ahead of time and also had a basket of new inexpensive sock slippers by the front door in case anyone wanted a pair. Now I just try to make sure everyone's shoes are clean before they come in.

 

[WebmasterKathy]

Am I the only one who would find this odd and rude?

When I get dressed, I expect to stay dressed. If you want me to take off my shoes when I come to your house, I think you need to call and inform me of this dress code so I'll be prepared...

I might not want to walk around in stocking feet and ruin my good socks. I might be wearing hosiery that would be ruined this way. I might not feel comfortable showing strangers my naked feet.

I would be pretty taken aback to be asked to remove my shoes in your home unexpectedly.

Floors are meant to be walked on!

 

[Antonia]

Here's another take on bare or sock feet - I've been a nurse for 20 years and by the looks of some of the feet I've seen, you probably should be happy to have your guests leave their shoes on! LOL

 

[AZKathy]

Also, speaking of the ruining of hosery, there are some days I may go out with a few small holes in my socks. Not often, but that happens! I would be very embarrassed!!!<a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_13_17.gif' border=0></a>

 

[denisem]

JMHO. I live in Michigan (snow weather) and chose to have ivory carpeting. Don't ask *anyone* to remove their shoes. If they do, great. If they don't...hey, I just clean my carpeting more often then I plan to

Denise < --- does think if anyone feels *strongly* about this issue, that they offer a basket of colorful socks or slippers at the entryway as a "hint".

 

[WebmasterBarry]

If I see shoes by the front door and people walking around in socks or barefoot, I'll take off my shoes. Otherwise, I just walk around the house in the shoes unless someone says otherwise.

 

[GEM]

To be honest, I wouldn't think it was rude, but I would find it a little wierd. I mean, if you are that worried about keeping the floors totally clean, you probably shouldn't have anybody over. Now if it is really muddy or snowy or something outside, that would be different. Besides, what makes you think people's socks are any cleaner than their shoes??

 

[mouseclick1]

We get invited to a party once a year, where the hostess does request that shoes be taken off at the front door. She has a basket of slippers for her guests to wear. Personally, I can't stand doing this, but I do without saying anything out of respect to the hostess. I do not use the slippers; I think it's gross to wear slippers that other people have worn around her house. The first time I was really thrown off by her request, now I just make sure I have warm socks on, and at least I don't spend much time thinking about which shoes I will wear to the party! I would much rather keep my shoes on, but I can live with taking them off. I'm kind off on the fence whether or not it's rude, but I do think it's wierd.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Originally posted by KathyTX
Am I the only one who would find this odd and rude?

When I get dressed, I expect to stay dressed. If you want me to take off my shoes when I come to your house, I think you need to call and inform me of this dress code so I'll be prepared...

I might not want to walk around in stocking feet and ruin my good socks. I might be wearing hosiery that would be ruined this way. I might not feel comfortable showing strangers my naked feet.

I would be pretty taken aback to be asked to remove my shoes in your home unexpectedly.

Floors are meant to be walked on!

I agree! I've never been asked to remove my shoes, and would never would ask anyone to do it in my home.