Is anyone else tired of

[SLP958]

Mother's Day?

We do the normal gift, lunch/dinner with our moms but it is so irritating to me to have to do it on this one certain day.

DH and I see our parents regularly for all different kinds of events. I talk to my mom every day. Mother's Day seems to be a special day to them so of coarse we will continue to celebrate with them.

As for my kids, I never have them make a big deal out of Mother's Day. I don't want them having the same feelings about it that DH and I do.

I wish this day would fall out of favor.

I realize there are lots of Mother's Day supporters out there but surely someone else feels this way too.

 

[mefordis]

Well, I'm with you in that I will end the Mother's Day obligation with me. Meaning, I am going to let my kids know that I don't expect or want anythign special on that day. Right now they are really young and I do for my MIL and GIL. My mother doesn't live in the same state as I do so I cannot be there for her.

 

[Tiffylv]

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[kimblebee]

I agree. I'm a mom and have been for almost 15 years but Mothers Day has always been only about my mom. One year I was talking to my dad about the plans for the day and he was saying your sister is doing so and and so and your brothers are doing so and so therefore you can do so and so. I 'jokingly' asked why I had to when it was my day too and was basically told no, it wasn't. I've never wanted a big deal made anyway so it isn't at my house.

 

[Handbag Lady]

I just hate going out in public and being reminded that I'm not a mom. My sister has the same problem as another poster here, she's a mom but it is always about our mom; people forget my sister is a mom, too. So, I let my sister decide what we're doing, and we invite my mom to join us.

 

[5kidsmommy]

I'm a mom and honestly it's just another day, I hate the expectations of holidays, they are just irritating.

 

[wishesuponastar]

Those of you who don't celebrate Mothers Day, what do you tell your children?

 

[superme80]

Nope. I love it! If I could just get my kids to obey me for the day it would be perfect! I understand the commercialism, but I do love it when my kids and hubby make a fuss over me.

 

[cjbcam]

I hate mother and Father's Day. Not because I don't appreciate my parents. They already know I do. But when I was growing up my cousins dad had passed and I always felt bad they never had one. How bad do these kids in school without a mom and dad must feel. I always stressed about that.
I also hate my kids feel they have to get me something. I always tell them to just help me around the house with one chore you normally wouldn't do. So that's what they've started doing each year. That way I have less to do and we can spend more time doing something fun.

 

[Christine]

I don't care for it at all but we don't celebrate "big." My own mother get really irritated if I try to give her a gift or do something, so it's always been either very low key or we just sort of ignore it.

My kids feel pressured to do something for me, but I tell them just don't worry. But society and commercials and Hallmark make them feel guilty!!

My best friend is in agony right now because she actually just wants to go play tennis that day but her grown kids have some "secret" outing planned which she knows is probably a lunch or dinner out and she said the LAST thing she wants to do on Mother's Day is face the crowds.

If my kids seem like they want to do something, I'm just going to suggest that we go to a movie on Sunday afternoon. I really want to see that Sofia Vergara/Reese Witherspoon comedy!

But otherwise, yeah, I find the day awkward. It was great last year because my DD graduated from college on Mother's Day and it just sort of took care of that day for me!

 

[BellsFam]

I hate it because my birthday falls on or before the same day! It sucks because DHs mom needs a gift, we need to visit FIL gravesite, we need breakfast or a big dinner... For her!

I'm over here like, hey I'm a mom too and it's my birthday!

 

[cepmom]

I used to like it, but then over time, it turned into more work for me than enjoyment, and forced spending the day with extended family which was anything but enjoyable for me. DH asked me the other day what I wanted to do, he sounded sort of defeated, trying to fulfill an obligation to make the day nice for me while still fulfilling an obligation to spend time with his mom too...I opted to work instead, so no pressure for him, no forced extended family time for me, it's a win win. I'll be happy to just spend the evening and have dinner at home with my immediate family when I get home from work.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I don't have a problem with it, but I don't think it needs to be a huge deal.

Theoretically, mothers should be appreciated every day. Realistically, they are often overlooked and taken for grated. I don't think it hurts to have a day to remind children (and significant others) how important they are. Same with Father's Day.

 

[scrhsa]

I never have liked mandated personal "holidays". Really hate Valentines But I always told my kids to just give me a hug or draw me a picture. I will say though that the best Mother's day gift was from the youngest when she was in about 3rd or 4th grade. She had gotten a pair of jeans that came with a little crystal heart key chain attached to the belt. That was the ONLY reason she wanted those jeans. Well, come Mother's day, she gave me that crystal heart. I could see that it was one of the hardest things she had ever done. But she gave with pure love. I still get choked up about it. This year I told my girls I just want them to make me some chips and dip The good green stuff

 

[Disney Ella]

I've never celebrated it with my kids, but I feel weird admitting it to other people. At work when people would ask what I did for Mother's Day, I would always give some vague answer. I don't live near my parents, so when I do see them, I usually take them both out to dinner for a combined Mother's/Father's Day gift because it's important to them. I plan to eventually stop celebrating Christmas. In fact, Labor Day is my favorite holiday because it's so low key.

 

[alicat8]

I need to work out some kind of system for Mother's Day, because right now it's just stress. I end up cooking (or my dad and I both do), trying to figure out how to see both moms and grandmas...I feel like I'll never get to enjoy it. This year I'm going to make something work, so all moms (myself included!) get some form of nice relaxation! Just haven't figured out how yet... It's extra tough because my husband's and daughter's birthday usually fall within days of it-multiplying my exhaustion.

 

[lauradis]

I hate it because my birthday falls on or before the same day! It sucks because DHs mom needs a gift, we need to visit FIL gravesite, we need breakfast or a big dinner... For her!

I'm over here like, hey I'm a mom too and it's my birthday!

awe

 

[lauradis]

Im not fond of Mothers Day, Fathers day, Valentines day, Sweeties Day.

MIL would just die if everyone didn't make a big deal about it I and my sister - in law band together many years age and explained that it was up to her sons to do mothers day not us, because we are all mothers and we both dont care for the whole out to brunch, etc. A couple of years we have been able to get them to take the kids with them to the over packed brunches and leave us at home. Last time was great I took mimosa over to her house in my pj and no kids or husbands or mil for half the day.

I told my grown kids it is not a requirement and if they ever feel the need to have this experience with me "I don't wanta"

 

[anniemae]

Well, I am one who does not like those "Hallmark" holidays. I think they were just invented by the greeting card people to get you to spend money. I hate the obligation and all the hoopla about the day. The commercials portray it as such a happy day with the little kids acting like angels bringing mom some french toast in bed on a tray with flowers and everyone looks fresh and perfect.

In reality it is an agonizing day for many. For those who do not speak to their mothers, those who are not mothers but desperately want to be, those who are mothers but feel guilted into putting their own mother first, those whose mothers have passed away, those mothers who have lost children etc.

I always feel like I am a "stick in the mud" when it comes to these holidays, so it's nice to know others feel the same way! I try to be a good sport and eat the messy undercooked pancakes and burnt bacon. I smile as I clean up the colossal mess in the kitchen. I ooooooh and aaaaaaaah at the crafts they made in school as glitter sprinkles all over the floor. But inside I miss my own mother so much. It's just another day, but I hate how it puts a spot light on mothers. At least it will be over in a week, then we can all look forward to Fathers Day!

 

[mom2rtk]

Nope. I love it! If I could just get my kids to obey me for the day it would be perfect!

Hope springs eternal, huh?