The staring comments made me smile a little. Like I said before, I have DS, with Downs/Autism combo, and also DD who has had serious health conditions of her own. (Underlying Rheum condition, treated by steroids, which caused havoc with her bones and cartiledge in knees/hips).
DD has missed most of high school, and recently FINALLY returned to school for the end of senior year. She has scars all over her body from surgeries, many on her knees and thighs. (4 double surgeries in 3 years). So, she came home upset that TEACHERS were staring at her leg scars. She said "Mom, I can handle the kids doing it, but teachers should know better!" I said you are right. And the teachers all know her, or know OF her, because she has been so ill over the last 4 years. So we discussed options...... I think this is important, to help kids think of solutions to these social problems. We came up with this.... When a teacher would stare, Bridget would act startled and jumpy, and say, "what, what, is there something on my leg?! Is it a BUG?!!" while rubbing or swatting at her legs. Many teachers would respond with, "what are you talking about?" and DD would say, "WELL, you were staring at my legs like something was wrong!" DD LOVES this, and used it several times....... of course, most of our kids could not do this, but it made DD feel a little empowered ........