Colleen27
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Mar 31, 2007
I've been home for 14 years now and it has certainly been a roller coaster at times. When I left the workforce, DH and I had comparable salaries but he was much more invested in/dedicated to his career than I was. It wasn't a difficult decision at the time - my salary was consumed by the costs of working, and I don't just mean temporary things like daycare... What really did us in was the realization that we'd have to spend 100-150K more to be in a neighborhood and school district we were comfortable with, and/or $10-12K per year in private school tuition. Or we could move to the country and have a nice house in a friendly neighborhood with good schools, but we'd be too far from the city for me to commute and in an area with no real jobs in my field (IT support). I do a little freelancing and crafting for pocket cash, which goes straight into the "fun" budget, but I haven't earned a steady paycheck in a long time.
We live pretty simply in the day-to-day and we avoid debt in all forms. We have shared a car at times, we bought a fixer-upper for cash when the market tanked, I cook from scratch and grow vegetables and can and freeze produce in the summer/fall for winter use. We don't go out to eat much but we don't miss it because there aren't many good options in our little town. We do a lot of free/cheap things as a family - we live in a waterfront community with a public beach, lovely boardwalk, and great parks & bike paths, we get our state park pass each year for daytrips, and we spend a lot of time at the library. But we do still travel. With no mortgage and low living expenses we're able to spend a fairly ridiculous percentage of our income on vacationing and I like to make the most of it. And I can't imagine doing it any other way - my husband has been able to do things professionally that he couldn't if we were sharing the household and childcare duties more evenly, and I don't have the pressures of working all day only to come home to cook and chauffeur kids around in the evenings.
We live pretty simply in the day-to-day and we avoid debt in all forms. We have shared a car at times, we bought a fixer-upper for cash when the market tanked, I cook from scratch and grow vegetables and can and freeze produce in the summer/fall for winter use. We don't go out to eat much but we don't miss it because there aren't many good options in our little town. We do a lot of free/cheap things as a family - we live in a waterfront community with a public beach, lovely boardwalk, and great parks & bike paths, we get our state park pass each year for daytrips, and we spend a lot of time at the library. But we do still travel. With no mortgage and low living expenses we're able to spend a fairly ridiculous percentage of our income on vacationing and I like to make the most of it. And I can't imagine doing it any other way - my husband has been able to do things professionally that he couldn't if we were sharing the household and childcare duties more evenly, and I don't have the pressures of working all day only to come home to cook and chauffeur kids around in the evenings.