jenrose66
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- Mar 17, 2005
I'm really having major problems with DH. I just don't know what to do. I am seriously thinking about a divorce or seperation because I don't see any resolution to this. He does not want marriage counseling.
Me and DH don't believe in daycare, because of this we decided one of us would stay at home. I made considerable more money than DH but he made enough for us to get by if I quit my job. So...stupid, hormonal, new mom me gave up my job.
DH works for a family business. They do nothing but screw him. He was promised a raise if he took a certification test. Everyone where he works has been taking these tests (there are 8 of them) and every time you pass you get a $20 a week raise. So DH passes his test and weeks go by and there was no talk of a raise. He finally asked about it and his grandfather said that since insurance is so expensive, he wasn't getting the raise. Now, everyone gets their insurance paid for. Everyone has taken these tests and gotten their raises. DH finally takes a test and he gets no raise.
I think DH needs to quit this job. He was offered a better job that paid more money. He took the job but his mom died and he said that he just couldn't leave the family. They show him no respect...I don't believe he owes them anything.
We are expected to see these people at family gatherings on a weekly basis. Everyone acts like everything is fine...but it's not.
I have chest pain over this. I am just so mad that DH won't stand up for himself. I am planning on going back to work. I have 4 interviews lined up. 2 for North Carolina and 2 for here. The jobs here provide close to what I used to be making. My DH says he will quit his job if I get a new job.
What is bothering me is that I don't ever want to see his family again. I think they are horrible people and I can't stand them. If they can't take care of their own son/grandson why should he act like everything is ok with them outside of business hours.
They hate me because they think I'm a trouble maker. DH said he doesn't like conflict and that is why he won't defend me.
These issues have been going on for 6 years and I'm tired of it. If he doesn't want to work on this marriage maybe it's time to leave. I feel like if we stay where we live and I get a job I will be very resentful towards DH because he will want to keep contact with his family and I can't stand them.
Me and DH don't believe in daycare, because of this we decided one of us would stay at home. I made considerable more money than DH but he made enough for us to get by if I quit my job. So...stupid, hormonal, new mom me gave up my job.
DH works for a family business. They do nothing but screw him. He was promised a raise if he took a certification test. Everyone where he works has been taking these tests (there are 8 of them) and every time you pass you get a $20 a week raise. So DH passes his test and weeks go by and there was no talk of a raise. He finally asked about it and his grandfather said that since insurance is so expensive, he wasn't getting the raise. Now, everyone gets their insurance paid for. Everyone has taken these tests and gotten their raises. DH finally takes a test and he gets no raise.
I think DH needs to quit this job. He was offered a better job that paid more money. He took the job but his mom died and he said that he just couldn't leave the family. They show him no respect...I don't believe he owes them anything.
We are expected to see these people at family gatherings on a weekly basis. Everyone acts like everything is fine...but it's not.
I have chest pain over this. I am just so mad that DH won't stand up for himself. I am planning on going back to work. I have 4 interviews lined up. 2 for North Carolina and 2 for here. The jobs here provide close to what I used to be making. My DH says he will quit his job if I get a new job.
What is bothering me is that I don't ever want to see his family again. I think they are horrible people and I can't stand them. If they can't take care of their own son/grandson why should he act like everything is ok with them outside of business hours.
They hate me because they think I'm a trouble maker. DH said he doesn't like conflict and that is why he won't defend me.
These issues have been going on for 6 years and I'm tired of it. If he doesn't want to work on this marriage maybe it's time to leave. I feel like if we stay where we live and I get a job I will be very resentful towards DH because he will want to keep contact with his family and I can't stand them.