momto4princesses
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- Jul 17, 2011
My oldest daughter is about to make me loose my mind.
Backstory: she is almost 13 and in the 7th grade in middle school. She has become moody (about to start her cycle?????), inconsiderate, disrespectful, lazy, etc. The friday before school got out for Christmas she got in trouble at school (first time ever) for flipping a boy off in class. I was furious and she was grounded most of Christmas break. I told her that if she didn't get herself together with her behavior, attitude and make sure her grades were up she would not get to go on our Disney trip coming up in a week. So she did pretty good during the break. She even did pretty good this week and has pulled up her questionable grades.
And then the other shoe drops! I get a call today to come pick her up because she missed her afternoon bus because she was in trouble and talking to a teacher. Turns out she had been in guidance doing some testing and was then told to return to class during her 5th period. However she decided she didn't want to and so she went to another teacher's class (her favorite teacher from last year). She lied to this teacher telling her the teacher of the class she was supposed to be in told her she could come when in fact her teacher had no idea where she was. So in reality she skipped her 5th period class.
I am so angry with her I could just scream. She is grounded again and we have taken away the new Ipad she got from her grandparents for Christmas.
Now comes the question, do we allow her to go on the trip?
DH wants to let her go but continue to be grounded while on trip. Allow her no extra spending $ from us so that all she would have would be the $25 gift card from her grandparents. I think she should probably be forced to stay behind, but man I hate to do that.
So parents who've BTDT with teens/pre-teens share some advice? How do I wake her up and snap her out of this behavior before it gets worse? Do I let her go on the trip or miss it?
Backstory: she is almost 13 and in the 7th grade in middle school. She has become moody (about to start her cycle?????), inconsiderate, disrespectful, lazy, etc. The friday before school got out for Christmas she got in trouble at school (first time ever) for flipping a boy off in class. I was furious and she was grounded most of Christmas break. I told her that if she didn't get herself together with her behavior, attitude and make sure her grades were up she would not get to go on our Disney trip coming up in a week. So she did pretty good during the break. She even did pretty good this week and has pulled up her questionable grades.
And then the other shoe drops! I get a call today to come pick her up because she missed her afternoon bus because she was in trouble and talking to a teacher. Turns out she had been in guidance doing some testing and was then told to return to class during her 5th period. However she decided she didn't want to and so she went to another teacher's class (her favorite teacher from last year). She lied to this teacher telling her the teacher of the class she was supposed to be in told her she could come when in fact her teacher had no idea where she was. So in reality she skipped her 5th period class.
I am so angry with her I could just scream. She is grounded again and we have taken away the new Ipad she got from her grandparents for Christmas.
Now comes the question, do we allow her to go on the trip?
DH wants to let her go but continue to be grounded while on trip. Allow her no extra spending $ from us so that all she would have would be the $25 gift card from her grandparents. I think she should probably be forced to stay behind, but man I hate to do that.
So parents who've BTDT with teens/pre-teens share some advice? How do I wake her up and snap her out of this behavior before it gets worse? Do I let her go on the trip or miss it?