It seems that as the years go on, more and more people aren't enjoying Christmas because of the gift stress. I am with you all on your thoughts, though I must admit, the gift card swap appeals to me because I love gift cards- they are like "funny money" for me! I could give you a list a mile long of where I would love gift cards to. I think we need to get back to making the gifts be for the kids, and the rest of the holiday simply be about family and love, and being together.
I can also relate to the Alzheimer's family issue. My Dad had Alzheimers and my Mom kept him home in her care for many years- longer than she should have. He did end up in a nursing home, in the Alzheimer's unit. Not happy for us, but it is not a pleasant illness. I commend the family wanting to provide the care, but it is really a 24 hr job, and no one is equipped for that. (wearing yourself down makes you more susceptible to illness yourself, then what happens?)
I hope your family will get together to discuss other alternatives. You cannot give up your entire lives to caring for a parent, even though your heart screams for you to. I hope you can come to an alternate solution that will make sense to you. Best of luck to you
I can also relate to the Alzheimer's family issue. My Dad had Alzheimers and my Mom kept him home in her care for many years- longer than she should have. He did end up in a nursing home, in the Alzheimer's unit. Not happy for us, but it is not a pleasant illness. I commend the family wanting to provide the care, but it is really a 24 hr job, and no one is equipped for that. (wearing yourself down makes you more susceptible to illness yourself, then what happens?)
I hope your family will get together to discuss other alternatives. You cannot give up your entire lives to caring for a parent, even though your heart screams for you to. I hope you can come to an alternate solution that will make sense to you. Best of luck to you